Re: The idea that we signed up for this

[Guest guest]

I think of it like this - if it gives you back the feeling of control, then it's

a helpful thought. If it makes you angry - well throw it in the dustbin with all

the other crazy things people say.

And it can be used both ways. It can make you feel like it's your fault, more

victim-hood. But you can also make the lesson be anything you want. The lesson

could be that you need to learn to live with the abuse, but more likely, the

lesson is how to stand up for yourself and say no to the most powerful

archtype/person in anyone's life, the MOTHER. The lesson you came here to learn

is how to take care of yourself. I think that's the best work anyone can do,

finding their own inner peace, it's the only way we will be truly kind and

compassionate to others.

At least that's one way to hear that saying. But I also agree, that many people

use (hopefully unintentionally) it to make you feel worse. And that's not

useful.

[Guest guest]

I think of it like this - if it gives you back the feeling of control, then it's

a helpful thought. If it makes you angry - well throw it in the dustbin with all

the other crazy things people say.

And it can be used both ways. It can make you feel like it's your fault, more

victim-hood. But you can also make the lesson be anything you want. The lesson

could be that you need to learn to live with the abuse, but more likely, the

lesson is how to stand up for yourself and say no to the most powerful

archtype/person in anyone's life, the MOTHER. The lesson you came here to learn

is how to take care of yourself. I think that's the best work anyone can do,

finding their own inner peace, it's the only way we will be truly kind and

compassionate to others.

At least that's one way to hear that saying. But I also agree, that many people

use (hopefully unintentionally) it to make you feel worse. And that's not

useful.