Guest guest Posted April 28, 2012 Report Share Posted April 28, 2012 This morning, my brother tells me that my stepnada's mother died. I called her grandma, and she always treated me well. I looked up the obituary this morning. My brother is mentioned as a grandchild, my stepbrother's ex wife, whom stepnada really hated and said mean things about when this dil was divorcing her son, is listed as a granddaughter, but I am not mentioned anywhere. Because I finally get the guts up to speak my mind, I am no longer one of the family, not that I was really ever one of the family in the first place. She just took care of me so her " reputation " wouldn't be hurt. Just one more example of how mean and hateful she is. Of course, if she was asked, I am sure she would make me out to be a horrible person, and her the victim. How can anyone live with so much hatred and anger in their heart? I know she is just covering up her own insecurities, but hanging on to all of that hatred and anger just makes a person bitter and unhappy. That's why I am in therapy and working on myself, so I don't turn out like her. So, I went to the funeral home website and left a nice note about how much I loved grandma and will miss her, and my thoughts and prayers were with the rest of the family. Janet Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. Proverbs 3:5-8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2012 Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 (((Janet))) I'm so sorry for how you were deliberately left out of the obituary. That is extraordinarily mean, and what's worse, your stepmother chose to be mean at a time of loss. > > This morning, my brother tells me that my stepnada's mother died. I called her grandma, and she always treated me well. I looked up the obituary this morning. My brother is mentioned as a grandchild, my stepbrother's ex wife, whom stepnada really hated and said mean things about when this dil was divorcing her son, is listed as a granddaughter, but I am not mentioned anywhere. Because I finally get the guts up to speak my mind, I am no longer one of the family, not that I was really ever one of the family in the first place. She just took care of me so her " reputation " wouldn't be hurt. Just one more example of how mean and hateful she is. Of course, if she was asked, I am sure she would make me out to be a horrible person, and her the victim. How can anyone live with so much hatred and anger in their heart? I know she is just covering up her own insecurities, but hanging on to all of that hatred and anger just makes a person > bitter and unhappy. That's why I am in therapy and working on myself, so I don't turn out like her. So, I went to the funeral home website and left a nice note about how much I loved grandma and will miss her, and my thoughts and prayers were with the rest of the family. > Janet > Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. > In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. > Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. > It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. > Proverbs 3:5-8 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2012 Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 (((Janet))) I'm so sorry for how you were deliberately left out of the obituary. That is extraordinarily mean, and what's worse, your stepmother chose to be mean at a time of loss. > > This morning, my brother tells me that my stepnada's mother died. I called her grandma, and she always treated me well. I looked up the obituary this morning. My brother is mentioned as a grandchild, my stepbrother's ex wife, whom stepnada really hated and said mean things about when this dil was divorcing her son, is listed as a granddaughter, but I am not mentioned anywhere. Because I finally get the guts up to speak my mind, I am no longer one of the family, not that I was really ever one of the family in the first place. She just took care of me so her " reputation " wouldn't be hurt. Just one more example of how mean and hateful she is. Of course, if she was asked, I am sure she would make me out to be a horrible person, and her the victim. How can anyone live with so much hatred and anger in their heart? I know she is just covering up her own insecurities, but hanging on to all of that hatred and anger just makes a person > bitter and unhappy. That's why I am in therapy and working on myself, so I don't turn out like her. So, I went to the funeral home website and left a nice note about how much I loved grandma and will miss her, and my thoughts and prayers were with the rest of the family. > Janet > Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. > In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. > Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. > It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. > Proverbs 3:5-8 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2012 Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 Thank you. Grandma is being cremated and they are having a service at the cemetary that a lot of my dad's family is buried in. I can go at a later time and pay my respects. In the meantime, I will mourn in my own way. Janet  Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.  Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.  It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. Proverbs 3:5-8 To: WTOAdultChildren1 Sent: Sunday, April 29, 2012 6:43 AM Subject: Re: The things they do  (((Janet))) I'm so sorry for how you were deliberately left out of the obituary. That is extraordinarily mean, and what's worse, your stepmother chose to be mean at a time of loss. > > This morning, my brother tells me that my stepnada's mother died. I called her grandma, and she always treated me well.  I looked up the obituary this morning. My brother is mentioned as a grandchild, my stepbrother's ex wife, whom stepnada really hated and said mean things about when this dil was divorcing her son, is listed as a granddaughter, but I am not mentioned anywhere. Because I finally get the guts up to speak my mind, I am no longer one of the family, not that I was really ever one of the family in the first place. She just took care of me so her " reputation " wouldn't be hurt. Just one more example of how mean and hateful she is. Of course, if she was asked, I am sure she would make me out to be a horrible person, and her the victim. How can anyone live with so much hatred and anger in their heart? I know she is just covering up her own insecurities, but hanging on to all of that hatred and anger just makes a person > bitter and unhappy. That's why I am in therapy and working on myself, so I don't turn out like her. So, I went to the funeral home website and left a nice note about how much I loved grandma and will miss her, and my thoughts and prayers were with the rest of the family. > Janet >  Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. >  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. >  Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. >  It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. > Proverbs 3:5-8 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2012 Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 Thank you. Grandma is being cremated and they are having a service at the cemetary that a lot of my dad's family is buried in. I can go at a later time and pay my respects. In the meantime, I will mourn in my own way. Janet  Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.  Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.  It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. Proverbs 3:5-8 To: WTOAdultChildren1 Sent: Sunday, April 29, 2012 6:43 AM Subject: Re: The things they do  (((Janet))) I'm so sorry for how you were deliberately left out of the obituary. That is extraordinarily mean, and what's worse, your stepmother chose to be mean at a time of loss. > > This morning, my brother tells me that my stepnada's mother died. I called her grandma, and she always treated me well.  I looked up the obituary this morning. My brother is mentioned as a grandchild, my stepbrother's ex wife, whom stepnada really hated and said mean things about when this dil was divorcing her son, is listed as a granddaughter, but I am not mentioned anywhere. Because I finally get the guts up to speak my mind, I am no longer one of the family, not that I was really ever one of the family in the first place. She just took care of me so her " reputation " wouldn't be hurt. Just one more example of how mean and hateful she is. Of course, if she was asked, I am sure she would make me out to be a horrible person, and her the victim. How can anyone live with so much hatred and anger in their heart? I know she is just covering up her own insecurities, but hanging on to all of that hatred and anger just makes a person > bitter and unhappy. That's why I am in therapy and working on myself, so I don't turn out like her. So, I went to the funeral home website and left a nice note about how much I loved grandma and will miss her, and my thoughts and prayers were with the rest of the family. > Janet >  Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. >  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. >  Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. >  It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones. > Proverbs 3:5-8 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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