Not Sending a Mother's Day Card

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Yes, M. You're most certainly not alone in what you're feeling.

I've been NC with my nada for a year now. Why? Well, after moving in to

help my lovely nada who'd been unemployed for 3 years, she decided to kick

me out once I fell on hard times and couldn't support her financially,

verbally berated me for falling in love with a guy, and then CALLED THE

COPS on me when I stood up for myself by telling her to shut up when I

decided I'd had enough of her verbal abuse.

And that is when I realized that my nada is completely psychotic.

Anyway, I now understand that it's damn near impossible to have any type of

positive relationship with my nada, so I don't even go through the pretense

of having LC with her. I mean, if she can verbally attack me and then turn

around and call the cops on me when I refuse to engage her, then she's

truly capable of anything, right?

Even so, it's hard. It's hard when other family members accuse you of being

mean or cruel to your nada when, actually, the exact opposite is true. The

only thing that has helped me with this is realizing that no matter what

these so-called family members say, the bulk of them would NEVER put up

with the things that my nada has done to me. NEVER. Besides, people who

really love you would never encourage you to remain in an abusive

relationship with anyone.

So, know that you're not alone in how you're feeling. I think most of us

are not looking forward to all the Mother's Day hoopla...