feeling vindicated and relieved

[Guest guest]

It is one thing to sincerely believe in Karma, it is a bit more gratifying to

get to see it in action.

I don't really doubt my decisions very often, but I do have them weigh very

heavily on my mind. I posted here before about the Permanent Order of Protection

I had to take out against a neighbor of mine, who is very likely BPD. I do hate

that it came to that, and I would have rather not, but today I got a reminder

that this man is still up to his same old crap. I was talking to a friend of

mine and she knows him too. Another female friend of his is now no longer

speaking to him because he " freaked out " on her one too many times and she had

finally had enough. I think I just had the misfortune to live right next door to

this man and couldn't get the needed geography between us to get him to leave me

alone without a restraining order when he threatened violence.

So today I am grateful for the affirmation that I did the right thing and that

the universe provided that little reminder. Thank you!

C

[Guest guest]

High-five for the vindication; that must have been a difficult, unpleasant

decision to make, but it would seem indeed that it was necessary.

-Annie

>

> It is one thing to sincerely believe in Karma, it is a bit more gratifying to

get to see it in action.

>

> I don't really doubt my decisions very often, but I do have them weigh very

heavily on my mind. I posted here before about the Permanent Order of Protection

I had to take out against a neighbor of mine, who is very likely BPD. I do hate

that it came to that, and I would have rather not, but today I got a reminder

that this man is still up to his same old crap. I was talking to a friend of

mine and she knows him too. Another female friend of his is now no longer

speaking to him because he " freaked out " on her one too many times and she had

finally had enough. I think I just had the misfortune to live right next door to

this man and couldn't get the needed geography between us to get him to leave me

alone without a restraining order when he threatened violence.

>

> So today I am grateful for the affirmation that I did the right thing and that

the universe provided that little reminder. Thank you!

>

> C

>

[Guest guest]

High-five for the vindication; that must have been a difficult, unpleasant

decision to make, but it would seem indeed that it was necessary.

-Annie

>

> It is one thing to sincerely believe in Karma, it is a bit more gratifying to

get to see it in action.

>

> I don't really doubt my decisions very often, but I do have them weigh very

heavily on my mind. I posted here before about the Permanent Order of Protection

I had to take out against a neighbor of mine, who is very likely BPD. I do hate

that it came to that, and I would have rather not, but today I got a reminder

that this man is still up to his same old crap. I was talking to a friend of

mine and she knows him too. Another female friend of his is now no longer

speaking to him because he " freaked out " on her one too many times and she had

finally had enough. I think I just had the misfortune to live right next door to

this man and couldn't get the needed geography between us to get him to leave me

alone without a restraining order when he threatened violence.

>

> So today I am grateful for the affirmation that I did the right thing and that

the universe provided that little reminder. Thank you!

>

> C

>

[Guest guest]

High-five for the vindication; that must have been a difficult, unpleasant

decision to make, but it would seem indeed that it was necessary.

-Annie

>

> It is one thing to sincerely believe in Karma, it is a bit more gratifying to

get to see it in action.

>

> I don't really doubt my decisions very often, but I do have them weigh very

heavily on my mind. I posted here before about the Permanent Order of Protection

I had to take out against a neighbor of mine, who is very likely BPD. I do hate

that it came to that, and I would have rather not, but today I got a reminder

that this man is still up to his same old crap. I was talking to a friend of

mine and she knows him too. Another female friend of his is now no longer

speaking to him because he " freaked out " on her one too many times and she had

finally had enough. I think I just had the misfortune to live right next door to

this man and couldn't get the needed geography between us to get him to leave me

alone without a restraining order when he threatened violence.

>

> So today I am grateful for the affirmation that I did the right thing and that

the universe provided that little reminder. Thank you!

>

> C

>

[Guest guest]

That makes little sense to me. Why would the fact that he is

grieving make it more acceptable for him to be abusive to you? I

don't think he needs to have contact with you in order to grieve

so I see no reason you should be expected to reverse the

restraining order. I agree with you that strong emotions like

grief make BPD worse.

At 04:50 PM 05/07/2012 CmeBfree wrote:

>Thanks Annie. I was getting some pressure from some corners to

>reverse the retraining order due to the guys partner dying and

>that I should take pity on him. It has been my experience that

>grieving BPD's are WORSE than normal and that is a good time to

>keep an even greater distance and personal boundaries. This is

>really hard for all of us normals because we naturally feel

>sympathy for loss. We would like to reach out and comfort, but

>it just isn't worth it in the long run. :-( It's like that

>story about the scorpion and the frog. I appreciated that I

>heard about this, and some other things that confirm my

>decision to keep my distance and let things just be. C

--

Katrina

[Guest guest]

That makes little sense to me. Why would the fact that he is

grieving make it more acceptable for him to be abusive to you? I

don't think he needs to have contact with you in order to grieve

so I see no reason you should be expected to reverse the

restraining order. I agree with you that strong emotions like

grief make BPD worse.

At 04:50 PM 05/07/2012 CmeBfree wrote:

>Thanks Annie. I was getting some pressure from some corners to

>reverse the retraining order due to the guys partner dying and

>that I should take pity on him. It has been my experience that

>grieving BPD's are WORSE than normal and that is a good time to

>keep an even greater distance and personal boundaries. This is

>really hard for all of us normals because we naturally feel

>sympathy for loss. We would like to reach out and comfort, but

>it just isn't worth it in the long run. :-( It's like that

>story about the scorpion and the frog. I appreciated that I

>heard about this, and some other things that confirm my

>decision to keep my distance and let things just be. C

--

Katrina