Intro & any Daughter-in-laws out there

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Wow am I greatful to have found this site. I wish I had it when I was in

counseling dealing with my own classic Witch mother!

I have been married for 16 years to a great husband. For the first 14 years I

thought my mil was great. I was hurt over and over by many of her comments but

wanted a mom so badly that I ignored and made excuses for it.

Two years ago we sought counseling for our 10 year old son who had varrious

struggles. Only to find out that my parenting that I adopted from mil and

lingering thought patterns from my mother were his problem.

Recently I have come to understand that my mil is also BP. Apparently it is not

common to see a marriage where both spouses have borderline mothers???

I guess that because mil is a mix of Waif and Queen I just didn't see it. She

was also very buffered by her late husband. Our counselor asked my husband I to

do the SWOE workbook together and now it all make sense!

I sent her a letter telling her that her behaviors and comments were dammaging

and would no longer be tolerated.....I stirred quite a hornets nest. The world

of the siblings has been turned upside down.... and I am to blame....I imagine

that only in a forum like this would anyone understand.