Guest guest Posted May 30, 2012 Report Share Posted May 30, 2012 Hi Just wanted to say thanks to this group. I have been feeling those intense unexplainable feelings of shame a lot lately, and thought I might find some explanations here. I did a search and found this article that was discussed here in 2009. So glad this board exists! It makes me feel better to at least understand WHY I feel the way I do. Here's a little excerpt - and the article is by Judith Herman, here: http://www.scribd.com/doc/17538213/Shattered-ShameJudith--Herman " When methods of coercive control are used within primary attachment relationships, as occurs in the case of child abuse, the developing child learns nothing of ordinary social shame. Rather, the child is overwhelmed with extreme shame states. Fonagy, Target, Gergely, , & Bateman (2003) describe the shame of the abused child as “an intense and destructive sense of self-disgust, verging on self-hatred.†They explain that “the shame concerns being treated as a physical object in the very context where special personal recognition is expected.†Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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