Re: so nada has started a facebook account

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If she is posting pics of your kids, you can report her and ask FB to take them

down. If they are minors, she would need a parent's permission to put them up.

My nada did join fb several years ago. I put her in a group that was only

allowed to see VERY limited info, like my profile pic. She would complain that

she didn't understand it (she was looking for ALL my photos and info) and

eventually quit using it " because she couldn't figure it out. "

If you don't want to block her (which would make you both virtually invisible to

each other), I can understand. Just remember to protect your privacy by making

any necessary adjustments to your settings. And be careful that you don't think

you can control her behavior by watching her more closely--you can't, and

sometimes it just makes people feel even more stressed out.

Sveta

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My nada has a Facebook account. She logs in every few days and comments on every

single thing I have said or posted since her last log-in, often sharing

childhood " stories " about me that aren't true or making comments about how I

" always loved " something or something is my " favorite " . The first few weeks I

deleted almost everything she posted until she got the picture that her " mother

façade " of over-sharing and doting is no more appreciated online than it is in

real life.

It really took me back when she first started doing it, because I hadn't

experienced her pretending to be the perfect mom for an audience since I was

twelve, before the first time I went no-contact. I experienced a lot of the

angry and frustrated feelings I had as a child, that conviction that no one will

ever believe you about what goes on at home because of what she's showing in

public. The anger that she can pretend to give what you need in front of others,

but will never truly give/feel it.

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> hi all i havent been on this forum for a while but would like to know if other

nadas out there have also a fb account. mine just got one and of course she has

not added (have been estranged from her no contact for a blessed 2 years) what

freaks me out is that she has added my pics and my childrens pics commenting on

how much she misses my kids. we have mutual friends and she is being so overtly

over the top (as she lawas is) loving on peoples walls. i feel sorry for her. i

have made it very clear to her through email that if she wants to see my

children we first need to have a respectable civilied relationship which she of

course has rejected me and my hubby. at this me i have decided not to block her

and i would liketo be aware of her actions and whereabouts. anyone else in a

similar situation?

>

[Guest guest]

My nada has a Facebook account. She logs in every few days and comments on every

single thing I have said or posted since her last log-in, often sharing

childhood " stories " about me that aren't true or making comments about how I

" always loved " something or something is my " favorite " . The first few weeks I

deleted almost everything she posted until she got the picture that her " mother

façade " of over-sharing and doting is no more appreciated online than it is in

real life.

It really took me back when she first started doing it, because I hadn't

experienced her pretending to be the perfect mom for an audience since I was

twelve, before the first time I went no-contact. I experienced a lot of the

angry and frustrated feelings I had as a child, that conviction that no one will

ever believe you about what goes on at home because of what she's showing in

public. The anger that she can pretend to give what you need in front of others,

but will never truly give/feel it.

>

> hi all i havent been on this forum for a while but would like to know if other

nadas out there have also a fb account. mine just got one and of course she has

not added (have been estranged from her no contact for a blessed 2 years) what

freaks me out is that she has added my pics and my childrens pics commenting on

how much she misses my kids. we have mutual friends and she is being so overtly

over the top (as she lawas is) loving on peoples walls. i feel sorry for her. i

have made it very clear to her through email that if she wants to see my

children we first need to have a respectable civilied relationship which she of

course has rejected me and my hubby. at this me i have decided not to block her

and i would liketo be aware of her actions and whereabouts. anyone else in a

similar situation?

>

[Guest guest]

My nada has a Facebook account. She logs in every few days and comments on every

single thing I have said or posted since her last log-in, often sharing

childhood " stories " about me that aren't true or making comments about how I

" always loved " something or something is my " favorite " . The first few weeks I

deleted almost everything she posted until she got the picture that her " mother

façade " of over-sharing and doting is no more appreciated online than it is in

real life.

It really took me back when she first started doing it, because I hadn't

experienced her pretending to be the perfect mom for an audience since I was

twelve, before the first time I went no-contact. I experienced a lot of the

angry and frustrated feelings I had as a child, that conviction that no one will

ever believe you about what goes on at home because of what she's showing in

public. The anger that she can pretend to give what you need in front of others,

but will never truly give/feel it.

>

> hi all i havent been on this forum for a while but would like to know if other

nadas out there have also a fb account. mine just got one and of course she has

not added (have been estranged from her no contact for a blessed 2 years) what

freaks me out is that she has added my pics and my childrens pics commenting on

how much she misses my kids. we have mutual friends and she is being so overtly

over the top (as she lawas is) loving on peoples walls. i feel sorry for her. i

have made it very clear to her through email that if she wants to see my

children we first need to have a respectable civilied relationship which she of

course has rejected me and my hubby. at this me i have decided not to block her

and i would liketo be aware of her actions and whereabouts. anyone else in a

similar situation?

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