Guest guest Posted July 15, 2003 Report Share Posted July 15, 2003 Welcome Jana!! Glad you're here! Congrats on your weight loss!!! > Hi all, > > I am new so here is my info... > > Real Name: Jana > Yahoo Group ID Name: jmarielowe > City/State: Van Wert, OH > Type of Health Insurance: Medicaid > HMO or PPO?: nope > Surgery Date: 4/18/03 > Pre or Post Op?: post-op > (if you are pre op you don't need to fill the rest of the information out until you get a surger date) > Surgeon's Name: Dr. Alison Clarey > Hospital where surgery performed: Dayton, OH > Surgeon's Phone Number: 1- > Type of surgery: RNY > Open or Lap?: Open > Weight Before Sugery: 378 > Weight Now: 291 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2003 Report Share Posted July 15, 2003 welcome jana! keep up the fantastic job! lori h. > Hi all, > I am new so here is my info... > Real Name: Jana > Yahoo Group ID Name: jmarielowe > City/State: Van Wert, OH > Type of Health Insurance: Medicaid > HMO or PPO?: nope > Surgery Date: 4/18/03 > Pre or Post Op?: post-op > (if you are pre op you don't need to fill the rest of the information out until you get a surger date) > Surgeon's Name: Dr. Alison Clarey > Hospital where surgery performed: Dayton, OH > Surgeon's Phone Number: 1- > Type of surgery: RNY > Open or Lap?: Open > Weight Before Sugery: 378 > Weight Now: 291 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2003 Report Share Posted July 15, 2003 Im not jana wrong email Re: New Welcome Jana!! Glad you're here! Congrats on your weight loss!!! > Hi all, > > I am new so here is my info... > > Real Name: Jana > Yahoo Group ID Name: jmarielowe > City/State: Van Wert, OH > Type of Health Insurance: Medicaid > HMO or PPO?: nope > Surgery Date: 4/18/03 > Pre or Post Op?: post-op > (if you are pre op you don't need to fill the rest of the information out until you get a surger date) > Surgeon's Name: Dr. Alison Clarey > Hospital where surgery performed: Dayton, OH > Surgeon's Phone Number: 1- > Type of surgery: RNY > Open or Lap?: Open > Weight Before Sugery: 378 > Weight Now: 291 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2012 Report Share Posted June 5, 2012 hey! just joined the group.. currently reading one of the eggshells book. I have no idea where to even start. I am a 23 year old woman living with a BPD mom. After 4 years of college, i moved back home to live with my mother and brother(aged 13) to finish a two-yr graduate program. prior to this i had not lived with my mom fulltime since i was 17. as i look back things have always been tulmotous but this trouble starts with my mom joining the military when I was 20. she had a 10 yr old and told nobody of her plan til it was a done deal. this decision resulted in a move to TX, a deployment to Iraq and her entering a lengthy custody battle with my ex-stepfather. This case got very serious due to my stepdad forcibly taking my brother across the country, when my mom left him in my grandmas care. And due to her military status-losing her kid bc of military service blah blah blah. it took a year and my mom has gotten my brother back and I have finished a year of grad school. Getting through this year has been the hardest thing I have ever dealt with. Crisis after Crisis. Fight after Fight..too many specifics to go into but mother gets physical. Her substance abuse is a constant worry and an eating disorder Ive never seen in my life is pretty disturbing. ihave taken care of house, made attempts to manage her moods, completed 8 classes and a 20 hr a week internship. Now with my brother home, I am doing most things for him...mom cant even remember to feed him half the time...I delve out most discipline. my brother is quite difficult. He has been through a lot. His anxiety is bad and hes very moody-some of which is normal for his age but its still hard. I am trapped. I feel like I cant breathe. Ive lost sight of everything I had in mind for myself. friends keep telling me i look too skinny and tired. i am in constant stomach pain. i cant stop crying. I only sleep with sleep aids and the depression cloud is hanging low over my head. I get bad advice from family members who tell me to suck it up or leave-which i wouldnt even know how to do if I had the means. then i have other family members who tell me it isnt that bad, I just gotta shut up. I feel like a battered woman who keeps returning to the domestically violent relationship. My brother is so important to me and my guilt over him seems to always be my rationale in going back-i get kicked out every couple of weeks-im worried though i am doing more harm then good. i try so hard to not fight with her but it happens. I had to get some of it out. sum it up. i dont hate my mother. and i hate when people judge her so its nice to have a safe place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2012 Report Share Posted June 5, 2012 Hi sweetie.. Not much to say to you now as I am in my own crisis with Nada this moment. Just wanted to say welcome.. You will find some answers and support here. M- From: WTOAdultChildren1 [mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ] On Behalf Of matildabell@... Sent: Tuesday, June 05, 2012 4:26 PM To: WTOAdultChildren1 Subject: new hey! just joined the group.. currently reading one of the eggshells book. I have no idea where to even start. I am a 23 year old woman living with a BPD mom. After 4 years of college, i moved back home to live with my mother and brother(aged 13) to finish a two-yr graduate program. prior to this i had not lived with my mom fulltime since i was 17. as i look back things have always been tulmotous but this trouble starts with my mom joining the military when I was 20. she had a 10 yr old and told nobody of her plan til it was a done deal. this decision resulted in a move to TX, a deployment to Iraq and her entering a lengthy custody battle with my ex-stepfather. This case got very serious due to my stepdad forcibly taking my brother across the country, when my mom left him in my grandmas care. And due to her military status-losing her kid bc of military service blah blah blah. it took a year and my mom has gotten my brother back and I have finished a year of grad school. Getting through this year has been the hardest thing I have ever dealt with. Crisis after Crisis. Fight after Fight..too many specifics to go into but mother gets physical. Her substance abuse is a constant worry and an eating disorder Ive never seen in my life is pretty disturbing. ihave taken care of house, made attempts to manage her moods, completed 8 classes and a 20 hr a week internship. Now with my brother home, I am doing most things for him...mom cant even remember to feed him half the time...I delve out most discipline. my brother is quite difficult. He has been through a lot. His anxiety is bad and hes very moody-some of which is normal for his age but its still hard. I am trapped. I feel like I cant breathe. Ive lost sight of everything I had in mind for myself. friends keep telling me i look too skinny and tired. i am in constant stomach pain. i cant stop crying. I only sleep with sleep aids and the depression cloud is hanging low over my head. I get bad advice from family members who tell me to suck it up or leave-which i wouldnt even know how to do if I had the means. then i have other family members who tell me it isnt that bad, I just gotta shut up. I feel like a battered woman who keeps returning to the domestically violent relationship. My brother is so important to me and my guilt over him seems to always be my rationale in going back-i get kicked out every couple of weeks-im worried though i am doing more harm then good. i try so hard to not fight with her but it happens. I had to get some of it out. sum it up. i dont hate my mother. and i hate when people judge her so its nice to have a safe place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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