Re: So sick of swallowing feelings and words...

[Guest guest]

Good vent! I am keeping my fingers crossed for you, that a good job will come

your way soon so you can move away. We all deserve to have as joyful and

meaningful an adult life as possible; we weren't put on this Earth to be

anyone's emotional punching bag, not even our parents'.

So, here's a wish put out into the ether for the job situation to improve ASAP!

-Annie

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> Just want to rant for a sec.

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> As many of you have read I moved up here to help Nada when she got sick.

> (not knowing she was a nada at time, learned this when I got here and

> started questioning behavior, my childhood and found out about NPD / BPD)

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> Live with nada and dish rag step dad.

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> His - and now my ?!?!?!? strategy ?!?!?!? of living with Nada is to just be

> agreeable and ROLL OVER AND TAKE any selfish, demanding, demeaning, mean,

> self-centered, and or entitled thing she has to say... ARGGGGGGG!!!!! Or

> dish rag step dad will " counsel " me as to how to deal with her.

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> Please pray I find a job soon so I can bid this NUT a fond farewell and go

> LC, maybe NC.

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> She uses me! Expects me to wait on her hand and foot and belittles me..

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> She goes so far as to accuse me of leaching off her (she has never made a

> dime in her life) although I moved 300 miles to care for her when she fell

> ill, wait on her hand and foot, care for the entire house and property, buy

> $600 a month in food, cook all meals, clean all that needs cleaning, care

> for pets, ect ect ect. not to mention taking care of her meds. her

> insurance, her appointments...

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> So is SOOOOO GD passive aggressive!!!!!!!!

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> Blah, blah, blah. just needed to vent.. thank you!

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> M-

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[Guest guest]

Good lord, what's your father doing? Why isn't he cooking, cleaning, doing

meds, appointments and the rest? This is HIS job as her husband. Wow. To let

you know where I'm coming from I always had this fantasy that if my nada were

married that I wouldn't be burdened with any of her needs in taking care of her

emotional or otherwise. The sad truth is swallowing it and going along is the

only option if you truly feel you have to keep the peace. I'm in much a similar

position with my family and it really really sucks. Much sympathies and hugs.

Lobster

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> Just want to rant for a sec.

>

>

>

> As many of you have read I moved up here to help Nada when she got sick.

> (not knowing she was a nada at time, learned this when I got here and

> started questioning behavior, my childhood and found out about NPD / BPD)

>

>

>

> Live with nada and dish rag step dad.

>

>

>

> His - and now my ?!?!?!? strategy ?!?!?!? of living with Nada is to just be

> agreeable and ROLL OVER AND TAKE any selfish, demanding, demeaning, mean,

> self-centered, and or entitled thing she has to say... ARGGGGGGG!!!!! Or

> dish rag step dad will " counsel " me as to how to deal with her.

>

>

>

> Please pray I find a job soon so I can bid this NUT a fond farewell and go

> LC, maybe NC.

>

>

>

> She uses me! Expects me to wait on her hand and foot and belittles me..

>

>

>

> She goes so far as to accuse me of leaching off her (she has never made a

> dime in her life) although I moved 300 miles to care for her when she fell

> ill, wait on her hand and foot, care for the entire house and property, buy

> $600 a month in food, cook all meals, clean all that needs cleaning, care

> for pets, ect ect ect. not to mention taking care of her meds. her

> insurance, her appointments...

>

>

>

> So is SOOOOO GD passive aggressive!!!!!!!!

>

>

>

> Blah, blah, blah. just needed to vent.. thank you!

>

>

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> M-

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> ._,___

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