Guest guest Posted June 16, 2012 Report Share Posted June 16, 2012 Earlier I was talking to my nada about how she needed groceries. I offered to get them for her tomorrow (she had a stroke several years back and hasn't driven since, locals are still thanking their lucky stars she's not on the roads anymore). She meant to say, " I'd appreciate it, if you don't mind. " But what she did say was, " I'd appreciate it, if you don't matter. " Classic nada or what? The adult I am is laughing about it, but there's still that hurt kid inside who winced at it. Annie, you are so right about how parents need to be screened! Just thought I'd share that with the one group of people who I knew would get it too. Happy weekend, everyone! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2012 Report Share Posted June 18, 2012 That's a very telling Freudian slip, I agree. And I can understand why your inner child would be hurt by that; our hardware (our brain) and our software (mind and heart) as human beings have evolved to make us *want* to have a close, loving bond with our parents even after we reach adulthood, even if our parents are mentally ill and have demonstrated over decades of time that they are unable to love us back. Its just so very damned hard to absorb that, and to absorb that their inability to love has nothing to do with our own worthiness to BE loved. The deficit is on your nada's part. -Annie > > Earlier I was talking to my nada about how she needed groceries. I offered to get them for her tomorrow (she had a stroke several years back and hasn't driven since, locals are still thanking their lucky stars she's not on the roads anymore). She meant to say, " I'd appreciate it, if you don't mind. " But what she did say was, " I'd appreciate it, if you don't matter. " Classic nada or what? > > The adult I am is laughing about it, but there's still that hurt kid inside who winced at it. Annie, you are so right about how parents need to be screened! > > Just thought I'd share that with the one group of people who I knew would get it too. Happy weekend, everyone! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2012 Report Share Posted June 18, 2012 Ouch indeed. It's strange how we don't matter yet our services are so essential, eh? I agree screening is so very needed. > > Earlier I was talking to my nada about how she needed groceries. I offered to get them for her tomorrow (she had a stroke several years back and hasn't driven since, locals are still thanking their lucky stars she's not on the roads anymore). She meant to say, " I'd appreciate it, if you don't mind. " But what she did say was, " I'd appreciate it, if you don't matter. " Classic nada or what? > > The adult I am is laughing about it, but there's still that hurt kid inside who winced at it. Annie, you are so right about how parents need to be screened! > > Just thought I'd share that with the one group of people who I knew would get it too. Happy weekend, everyone! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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