If it's not one thing, it's another

[Guest guest]

I get rid of one dysfunctional family, only to get put right in the middle of

another one.   My stepdad(bio mom's husband) had a stent put in this morning.  I

didn't go because my sis in law was going to be there, and she likes to be the

one to be in charge during a family crisis.  I knew mom would call me if she

needed anything.  Well, my stepsister came down, unannounced, and both she and

my sis in law took over.  They wouldn't even let mom ask the doctor any

questions.  Then they take off for lunch, and didn't even invite mom.  I got

some birthday money today, so I am using part of it to take mom to lunch.  My

mom adopted both my stepsister and stepbrother, since their mom died when they

were young.  So, legally, my mom is there mom, and my mom feels like she's being

treated like the evil stepmom.  I listen, but I don't know what to do for her. 

My stepdad and I get along alright, but it is very clear which kids are

important.  I feel

like that I could disappear off the face of the earth, and only mom would

really care.  I know God has a reason for everything, but I am still trying to

figure out why I ended up with not only one, but two dysfunctional families.  I

hope He makes it clear soon....I am getting impatient in my old age!

Thanks for listening

Janet

 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own

understanding.

 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

 Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.

 It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones.

Proverbs 3:5-8

[Guest guest]

I like that part about " why. " I grew up in a very screwy home with my nada,

various men coming and going through the household. Nothing was stable. I was so

glad to move away.

Now the past 6 years have been horrid. About 26 years ago my nada and her

husband moved into our area. I was frantic but gradually adjusted. Then my step

Dad got real sick. 6 years ago he was close to dying and my husband and I

stepped in to help. That put us in very close contact with nada on a regular

basis. No fun. Then he passed away and we helped her get things in order. It was

only a couple years ago I learned about BPD. It was a big help to understand my

fear of her and the control she had over me. But it's a struggle because she is

elderly, alone, I have no siblings and I feel the right thing to do is help (not

do everything she demands of course) her during her final years. But as old and

puny as she is, she seems to keep on going like the energizer bunny. I keep

praying that God will pull her batteries. LOL Shame on me. At this rate, I

think she'll out live me.

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>  I know God has a reason for everything, but I am still trying to figure out

why I ended up with not only one, but two dysfunctional families.  I hope He

makes it clear soon....I am getting impatient in my old age!

> Thanks for listening

> Janet

>  Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own

understanding.

>  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

>  Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.

>  It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones.

> Proverbs 3:5-8

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