NC nada calls

[Guest guest]

Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... I've been NC with my nada since 2008. I haven't

seen or spoken to her. This was my choice. I didn't " tell her " I was doing

this... I just ceased contact.

She's tried to contact me via phone calls occasionally since my decision to go

NC. The last time she called she left 8 voicemail messages around 1:00 or 2:00

in the morning with her just breathing into the phone with loud hang ups.

Creepy. She did this a lot to me when I was in college before I went NC (or

would call " just to hear [my] voice. " Still creepy.

I decided the best thing to do was if I got a call to just let it go to

voicemail and then delete it without listening. I don't want to give her the

satisfaction of me having listened to the call, nor do I want to get shaken up.

She could have been calling to say she was jumping off a bridge and I would have

never known! lol.

The calls alone get me shaken up. It sucks that whenever my phone rings (even if

it's been years since she's tried to call) I still get scared that it's her. She

called last night around 9:30 when I had gotten home from 8 hours or work and

then my night class for grad school. I got angry because I was starving and

finally eating dinner and relaxing with my boyfriend and then I couldn't eat

because I panicked! It must be ptsd of sorts because my heart rate shot up when

I saw the caller ID and I started shaking. I wish she still didn't have this

effect on me.

I know this is nothing new... BPDs can't respect boundaries. I'm sure this

happens to a lot of people who are NC. It's pretty much to be expected. BPDs

feel entitled.

Next time I get a new phone (it's been a couple years haha) I will get a new

number.

This is pretty much a rant... so thanks for anyone who listened.

-Cvidz

[Guest guest]

I am currently working through the Dialectic Therapy Workbook for Anxiety myself

to help with my anxiety issues. I might suggest you try that or even the

regular Workbook. Its amazing stuff!

Bill

NC nada calls

Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... I've been NC with my nada since 2008. I haven't

seen or spoken to her. This was my choice. I didn't " tell her " I was doing

this... I just ceased contact.

She's tried to contact me via phone calls occasionally since my decision to go

NC. The last time she called she left 8 voicemail messages around 1:00 or 2:00

in the morning with her just breathing into the phone with loud hang ups.

Creepy. She did this a lot to me when I was in college before I went NC (or

would call " just to hear [my] voice. " Still creepy.

I decided the best thing to do was if I got a call to just let it go to

voicemail and then delete it without listening. I don't want to give her the

satisfaction of me having listened to the call, nor do I want to get shaken up.

She could have been calling to say she was jumping off a bridge and I would have

never known! lol.

The calls alone get me shaken up. It sucks that whenever my phone rings (even if

it's been years since she's tried to call) I still get scared that it's her. She

called last night around 9:30 when I had gotten home from 8 hours or work and

then my night class for grad school. I got angry because I was starving and

finally eating dinner and relaxing with my boyfriend and then I couldn't eat

because I panicked! It must be ptsd of sorts because my heart rate shot up when

I saw the caller ID and I started shaking. I wish she still didn't have this

effect on me.

I know this is nothing new... BPDs can't respect boundaries. I'm sure this

happens to a lot of people who are NC. It's pretty much to be expected. BPDs

feel entitled.

Next time I get a new phone (it's been a couple years haha) I will get a new

number.

This is pretty much a rant... so thanks for anyone who listened.

-Cvidz

[Guest guest]

I understand about the PTSD/anxiety. That happens to me, too. It has been much

better since NC.

I read a tip here once that I think has also helped a lot with the " just to hear

your voice " calls. Someone's nada would call over and over and hang up after the

outgoing message played. The member decided to change their outgoing message to

the factory-installed computer voice instead of the one she recorded herself.

And lo and behold, the nada stopped calling. I decided to do this last year

after I got a few hangups from nada's number, and haven't gotten any more since.

Is that an option for you?

Sveta