Adult survivors of BPD/NPD parents

[Guest guest]

, It sounds like your nada suffered from the same disorder that my

mother suffers from. I had heard of narcissistic personality disorder and

done research on this -- but had never heard of borderline personality

disorder until I read a Newsweek story about the unfortunate suicide of

Kennedy a few weeks ago. The silver lining of bursting the

privacy of the Kennedy and clans on this story? It has put a

name on what happened to my family and me, and I am sure that it has helped

other people, other families also.

So I have begun researching BPD. My mother no doubt suffers from both NPD

and BPD, swinging back and forth between the two of them, with BPD being a

much cruder form of emotional violence than the NPD. I am copying articles

about the condition and sending them to friends -- in the hopes that these

articles help explain myself and what happened to me to these friends --

and to family members in the hopes that my family can come together to try

and convince my mother (and her enabler second husband) that there is no

time to lose in getting her on the road to recovery. Another friend told

me yesterday that somehow when her mother was 89 years old she started on

the road to emotional recovery, giving her daughter a year and a half to

start to build a better relationship with her mother before she died.

In addition, I have been searching for professionals who treat PTSD in

people who are veterans of emotional and psychological wars -- but I have

had no luck in finding such professionals and have found traditional talk

therapists to be inadequate, as I have done a much better job of figuring

out what happened to me than they have.