Guest guest Posted July 17, 2012 Report Share Posted July 17, 2012 " Fleas " are an affectionate term used for BPD behavior that we, as children of BPD's, have unintentionally taken on. Its similar to when people say " Wow, you are just your mother when you say/do that! " However, while the rest of the population takes the saying as a term of endearment, we usually want to run screaming for the hills! Recently I have discovered some " fleas " that I really need to dispose of immediately. I think this is a healthy introspective look at ourselves because we all know that our nadas NEVER felt that they did or said anything wrong. Discovering possibly destructive behavior whether on your own or from a friend/family member/spouse, it can help us erase it and replace it with positive ones. Some of my personal " fleas " are: Self imposed isolation - I sometimes have to force myself to call people if I need help or if I want to talk or hang out. Negative self talk- the worst. I literally have to tell myself to stop. obsessiveness over perfection- its okay if the dishes aren't washed or if my hair isnt perfect. life goes on. Mrs. Know it All- If we had a family friend that went to Mount Everest, my nada would say something like " Oh i know.... my friend's friend went there twice! " I find myself doing this so I have to remind myself to shut up and just be in the moment. Finding something wrong-if I just sit back and relax, I often start thinking about what might be wrong. When I do this, I start creating problems that aren't there. over thinking is a definite flea. What are your fleas? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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