Re: nada/fada (just my own little joke)

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Those are very creative, LOL! Since " nada " is just a short version of " not a

mom " , which could mean either a neutral or absent/rejecting way of not being a

mom, or an actively hostile, toxic way of not being a mom, I'm OK with that

term.

Maybe substituting " the " for " my " would work better, as in " I got a call from

the nada " .

-Annie

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> So, a while ago there was a discussion about the relative merits of the terms

nada and fada.

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> I had a lot of free time on my hands yesterday waiting on various things (drug

testing for a new job, etc.) and was thinking I am not really fully comfortable

with those terms either. One, because they still seem to require a " my " and the

suggestion of a relationship and I don't feel any connection to the adults who

were supposed to raise me at all. Also, they were not " zeros. " They were

actively bad. They were not nothing: they were negatives.

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> This brought me to thinking about new terms and Prince popped into my

head--you know, the " musician formerly known as Prince. " And I thought about

this: " People Who Were Supposed to Parent, " or PWWSP (pronounced pwisp). You

could also say Male Who Was Supposed to Parent (MWWSP--pronounced mwisp) or

Female Who Was Supposed to Parent (FWWSP--pronounced fwisp). I was trying to

get it to sound as much like swiffer as possible...

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> Just sharing,

> Ashana

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