Am I being cynical or is this a possibility?

July 24, 2012

Hi All! Just a reminder of my scenario: new to the group, my mom hasn't been

diagnosed but meets all 9 criteria of BPD. I have just made this discovery

within the past 3-4 weeks and I have been adjusting my reactions to her, which

is what we're supposed to do, right? Maybe she's picking up that I'm treating

her different??

Here's what's going on: I've noticed sporadic memory issues with her, but

they've been days/weeks apart, but certainly something I've taken notice of.

Well within the past week her short term memory seems to have gotten much worse.

This coming around the time I told her my husband and I are going to TN to see

our son this weekend. She goes through her usual childish " I want to go. Why

can't I go? I don't like it when you go out of town. " On and on... This week

she has pulled a stunt like pouring coffee creamer in her pill divider box,

presumably while sleeping. Says she doesn't remember doing it. Then all in one

four hour visit when I took her to her dr visit downtown, several buildings we

passed " That's new " ...No mom, it's not new. An entire highway " Well now I know

that's new. " No mom, it's been there at least 20 years. She asked me three

times after we left the drs office " Now where's my Cymbalta prescription? " Each

time I reminded her that it was sent over e-scripts to walgreens. She was

getting mad at me each time I reminded her something wasn't new, or where her

prescription was, or that we were going to TN because she had forgotten. But we

all know you can't reason with them. I told her she needs to get an appt with

her primary care dr because it's time for her blood pressure meds and diabetes

meds. She said she wanted to talk to the dr about all this stuff she's

forgetting, and I agreed with her. Then she said " she hates living alone. She

really feels like she should have somebody with her to make sure she's doing

everything she should. "

So there's my question -- is she REALLY forgetting things, or is she concocting

a scheme to create sympathy and try yet another ploy to live in my house, which

CANNOT happen, and I know you all know what I mean.

My first inclination is she wouldn't try something like that, but it took me 46

years to realize I was being brainwashed and manipulated. So obviously my

judgment can't be trusted. Could this be the works of onset of dementia or

medically induced short term memory loss OR the underlying brain of a BPD?

HELP!! Input please! I can't have the wool pulled over my eyes!!

Thanks!!

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