More demands......

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After a month of NC from Nada, with only a brief phone call from Fada wanting to

meet and 'discuss' the situation (I was kicked out of their house at a Sunday

dinner because I yelled at Nada, even though she had pushed me and pushed me

into a corner), where they then decided Nada couldn't handle the meeting, and

they'd call after they went out of town.....background, the main problems my

nada has is to be overbearing with my daughter, to the point where she has told

me K (my daughter) would be better off with her then with me, and that I don't

know how to raise her.....and the fact that they spoil her to the extent of

having a slide into their swimming pool, a video game machine, a room for her,

with thousands of dollars of collectibles, a karaoke machine in a music room,

built with sound proofing for K, with a piano, drum set and guitar too....the

promise of a car at 16, and the lies that they support my husband and I.....and

I just had had enough of being treated like I didn't exist, and long story

short, I did blow up.

Anyways, when they were on their vacation to Nashville, my daughter and some

friends went to Nashville for a day trip, and Nada called K and begged her to

stay the night with them in Nashville. This is one of my biggest issues, that

they will just pick up K without permission, as if she is theirs. Fortunately,

K had the sense to say no I can't, and stay with her friends.

Ok so fast forward to our vacation, K and I were doing a trip to Atlanta to see

a few things and go to six flags. Nada calls to tell me she wants this to be

over and that she hopes we have a good trip. I am nice to her on the phone, and

knowing that my brother will be in town when we return from Atlanta, express an

interest in seeing them.

So on the way home from Atlanta, on I 75 going 80 miles an hour, my niece calls

and asks if we are coming over to see them, I talk to her for a while, and my

sister in law too, and say yes we will be over tomorrow, and that we looked

forward to seeing them. A few minutes later, fada calls, and says you have three

options. 1. You come over and apologize for your outburst and not speaking to

your mother for a month and then you can see your brother. 2. you invite them

over to your house Thursday and you deal with them. 3. you don't bother to see

them at all. I said, I have nothing to apologize for, I did nothing wrong. He

said well that leaves the other two options, and continued ranting at me, so I

said, look I can't talk right now, I'm on the freeway and am on my way home, its

10 at night and I need to pay attention to the road, and so he hung up on me.

UGG!!! So now I have to call my brother, and invite him over in the midst of

unpacking and mounds of laundry, and that just got back from vacation and want

to vegetate feeling, knowing its likely nada has already planned something

extravagant for them today to keep them from here, OR I don't see them at all.

They leave Friday and I have to work.....and they live 8 hours away, so I don't

see them very often....ugg. I'm sorry this is more of a rant then anything

else, but I'm just so frustrated!!!! Thanks for letting me vent.......tired of

feeling like an orphan, or the black sheep....but dang.........

One exhausted daughter in Tennessee.....Tina B.