Let the testing begin

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Whew, just spent an hour trying to catch up on all the posts. Gosh, life is so

hard at times.

This year isn't going to be a fun one. My mean (she was hateful to my hubby all

his life) MIL passed away early this year. My FIL, who is a sweetie, is slipping

fast. He's on hospice care with my husband's cousin taking care of him but

that's getting difficult. I doubt FIL will last much longer. Our cat has to be

euthanized and our rat is nearing the end of her life. I know, not the end of

the world. But this looks to be a year of death. All except nada. :-o

The good news is her cranky old doctor is finally sending her to someone else

for a full work up. He just does colonoscopies and for the past 4 years just

kept telling her that her bloodwork was fine. I tried to make him aware of her

mental decline, not sure he got it. In any case, at the end of this month she

has an appt. to see a lady doctor who's supposed to do a full workup. Not sure

what that means but I don't care. I just want someone to check her out.

Nada is already talking about not going. She has a multitude of reasons: she

doesn't like women doctors; this doctor better not tell her anything she doesn't

like or she'll let her have it (yes, she really said that today). She's telling

perfect strangers that she's going in to be chopped up again (surgery). I just

looked at her and blurted out: what surgery? She didn't like that much. In

reality I think she doesn't want to go because they won't find anything wrong

with her.

She was ranting about how bad her eyes were, how she can't do anything because

she can't see. I think it's more a matter that she can't understand anything and

that's why she can't adjust the thermostat, pay her bills or figure out what's

on TV. Anyway, I managed to make an appt. with her eye doctor, they kind of

squeezed her in. The morning she was supposed to go, she called and cancelled,

told them she was sick. But when I went over, she was ready to complain and then

spend the day shopping. Again, I think she knew they wouldn't find anything

wrong.

Keep a good thought that this new doctor will really figure out what's happening

and dig in. Make some changes that will bring some sanity back into my life.

Perhaps she'll determine that nada shouldn't be living on her own. Another

doctor told her that outright. She stopped going to him. I hope she can see how

befuddled nada is rather than be charmed by her constant chit chat and

diversions. Ask nada a question and she just flutters her hands and talks about

something else. Most likely I won't be allowed to go in with her so I'll have no

idea what happens. I'm anxious for this appointment and am hoping for some

assistance with this mess.