Guest guest Posted August 27, 2012 Report Share Posted August 27, 2012 Ive been in this group for years, this is my first post though. I'm an only child of a bpd mother. My dad is a recovering alcoholic, they are divorced, I am 31 married with 2 kids, live in a different state from both of them. My dad is currently unemployed. My mom has other chronic health conditions and is considering early retirement or disability. She has a pattern of making these impulsive decisions and of course blaming the repercussions on everyone else. Her mother has wiped out all her savings " helping " my mom. Only by the grace of God did we realize what was happening and stop giving freely. We still give her $300/mth and more occassionally. Family members have suggested we live more modestly so we can help them more, but I know that wont fix anything just cause me resentment and take away from my kids.. Anyway I am in therapy and go to al anon. I get that my mom wants to retire, honestly she kind of needs it physically, but I cant fund her. I want to point out to her that 6 years ago she said if my dad wpuld just stop drinking she would be happy then she said leaving my dad would make her happy, then moving to wv to be near her parents, then having them but her a house, then finding a new husband ( didn't happen). She's said all these things would make her happy and she's just gotten worse. I want to point out that stopping work probably won't bring the peace she is claiming it will bring. I just don't know if it's worth it to say that.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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