Re: Trauma/Getting them out of your head

[Guest guest]

It's good to hear that someone else is focusing on getting them out of their

head. Has anyone found strategies that help with this?

I hear my husband saying things that are definitely his father and sister.

I tell him that it is probably a gradual process to see things more from his own

perspective, to justify his own decisions that were right for him, rather than

seeing them from their judgemental, intolerant perspective.

It seems like a constant struggle to keep bringing the focus back to his own

perspective on his life, rather than theirs.

Any suggestions?

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> Oh, yes, definitely. I think nearly everyone starts out focusing on the bpd

in the family and their problems and how to fix them. It can take a long time

to realize the point of your life is really you. That kind of thinking has

never been allowed before in a family organized around a disordered person.

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> I have no idea what my process was like because it's been going for so long.

These days, I'm mainly trying to get them out of my head.

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> Take care,

> Ashana

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