Guest guest Posted September 1, 2012 Report Share Posted September 1, 2012 Ashana, Thank you so so so much for this: " Jen, It's a fear structure. The link is parents, danger, fear. This is not a cognition, but a non-conscious process as your senses take in the physical indicators of parents--either because they are there, or because you have called up images of them in your mind. Because they have been dangerous in the past to you, the message is sent from your occipital lobe to your amygdala that you are in danger. Your amygdala then prompts a physiological response of fear in you (increased heart rate and respiration, decreased bloodflow to the digestive system, sometimes vomiting, decreased activity in the prefrontal cortex), as well as prompts memories of how you responded in the past, because the fact is that you are alive, so however you responded in the past was a successful response. Otherwise, you would be dead. Even if you were not physically abused by your parents, rejection and temporary abandonment can feel just as life-threatening to a small child, because not having the protection of parents really is life-threatening. " I have found myself overreacting/responding really inappropriately when my wife raises her voice with our kids (and she is truly neither BPD nor abusive). It's something I " m really struggling with in terms of my kind of crazy spiraling reaction. And this helps me so, so much to get a grip on what is happening to me. Thank you. Leah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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