Sex tip from a Guest Lecture with Rhonda K.

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Chelle wrote: I clipped this from a guest lecture that Rhonda Kotarinos did with the ICN back in 2001...it might help someone. Hugs, Chelle What suggestions do you have for someone who experiences pain with penetration/ i.e. sex?? Should they wait or go for it?? <rhondak> I wouldn't "go for it" because that would cause pain and traumatize nerve endings and all that kind of stuff. If you're getting treatment by me, we'll reach a point of time where you could have intercourse and it wouldn't be that painful. <rhondak> But, if anyone is going to try intercourse and penetration is the most uncomfortable, I would suggest that as he is attempting to penetrate, have him stop (not pull out). If you attempt to push him out with your pelvic floor, hold for count of 3-5. Repeat this several times, then have him continue his penetration. Every time you feel pain have him stop and you repeat the gentle push or dropping of the pelvic floor. You will have gotten the pain under control and will be reversing the protective guarding that develops when pain is felt. The next time you try your anxiety will be reduced, because you have a tool that will help the pain.