when Nada gets petty

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I have been keeping Nada updated by e-mail on what is going on in my life. at

least what I am willing to share. my parents send out a weekly letter.

this last week she put the information I gave her in the letter, but she did it

in a way that annoyed me. and I am also annoyed for being annoyed.

she said things like " if I have my information correct " and " (my brother) tells

me... " just to make sure people know I was still giving her the " silent

treatment " that is what she is calling it. and apparently she has lost 40 LBS

because I am not talking to her (and possibly the diet she is on) this was not

in the letter but it is what she is telling people in a waif-like terrorized

voice. boohoo boohoo snif snif.

I send those e-mails because that is all I have to offer right now, and I am

trying to have a relationship on terms can handle.

It amazes me that she can write things like that and not realize that it does

not make me want to talk to her any sooner.DUH.

and I am wondering if I should address the issue or not? I think it is fairly

safe to assume that she has an excuse handy, and a way to make me feel dumb and

dismiss my feelings.

something like: " Meikjn I forgot you told me those things, and since I am not

talking to you right now I can never be sure I have the right information

etc... " I think she is likely to throw in something about me looking for things

to be offended about, and I imagine the word forgiveness would be in there too.

I wish there were a way to explain to her that this is the very kind of behavior

that led me to only wanting to talk to her by e-mail in the first place,and it

hardly makes me want more than that now. I guess I did explain that once...

are Nadas really THAT clueless? or do they just like to see what they can get

away with?

I just wish I could go through life without such nastiness. nadas are amazing at

using everything you are willing to give against you. way to make it even worse

for yourself Nada.

Meikjn