How do you face the person that caused this in the first place?

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My pain started a couple of weeks after a Type I genital herpes

infection. I got it from sex with an ex-boyfriend. We have been broken

up for many years, but have maintained a friendship and have sex when

we see each other (which isn't too often - he's in the army). But for

the past 4 years since our breakup we've remained close friends,

talking at least a few times a week.

Now it is two years after the infection that kicked off my vulvodynia.

He's stationed in Iraq right now, and I saw that he has posted on

singles websites that he will be back in January. Here I am, facing a

lifetime of constant pain, possibly never being able to be in an

intimate relationship for any significant period of time, destined to

die old and alone, and he's already putting himself out there so he

can get booty the second he's home! I am so furious and so hurt!

I love him, and his friendship has been the most supporting

relationship throughout this whole ordeal. But at the same time it is

so hard to face him, especially now he is going on with his life...how

unfair is this? How do I confront him, especially since we're not

even together and I technically have no reason to be so angry with him

for looking to date? I don't know what to do. He's the most

important person in my life, but I am facing a lifetime of constant

pain and loneliness because of him.

Crying in my cubicle,

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, after reading your post, I think you need to search your heart and figure out if you hate this guy or love him! Have you ever confronted him about passing on herpes to you? You all may not be an 'official' couple, but you can still confront him. Sounds like you need to set some 'boundaries' with him and take care of yourself. Maybe you could try distancing yourself from him for awhile until you sort through your feelings regarding him. Seeing a counselor might not be a bad idea either. Hugs, Chelle

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Why are you facing loneliness and pain...???? You can get on the pill protocol for herpes infections and you will overcome your VV as most of us have. You aren't going to being lonely - someone as faithful in love and friendship as you have shown yourself to be , will find the right person to love. Overcoming VV requires tenacity and patience, traits you obviously have.Put your efforts into helping yourself get better - and then pursue happiness and fullfillment. Women with VV and herpes marry and have children and live long lives... So, too will you.Keep us posted - we care.Dustyrebeccacoons wrote: My pain started a couple of weeks after a Type I genital herpesinfection. I got it from sex with an ex-boyfriend. We have been

brokenup for many years, but have maintained a friendship and have sex whenwe see each other (which isn't too often - he's in the army). But forthe past 4 years since our breakup we've remained close friends,talking at least a few times a week. Now it is two years after the infection that kicked off my vulvodynia.He's stationed in Iraq right now, and I saw that he has posted onsingles websites that he will be back in January. Here I am, facing alifetime of constant pain, possibly never being able to be in anintimate relationship for any significant period of time, destined todie old and alone, and he's already putting himself out there so hecan get booty the second he's home! I am so furious and so hurt! I love him, and his friendship has been the most supportingrelationship throughout this whole ordeal. But at the same time it isso hard to face him, especially now he is going on with his life...howunfair

is this? How do I confront him, especially since we're noteven together and I technically have no reason to be so angry with himfor looking to date? I don't know what to do. He's the mostimportant person in my life, but I am facing a lifetime of constantpain and loneliness because of him. Crying in my cubicle, **IF REPLYING TO THIS POST, PLEASE REMOVE ORIGINAL POST, Thanks for your cooperation! *****