Re: Using facebook to smear my name?!?!

[Guest guest]

sorry for all th mispelt words i was in a rush.

>

> hi all, so my nada has had fb...when she first got it she blocked me and now

she has unblocked and i randonly was looking at a relatives page when i noticed

they had shared a photo that my mum had shared with them. it was a picture of my

oldest daughter who is now 8 with my nada when she was a baby and on topof it

this is what my nada has written....not exact words but something like

> " a grandparents love is sacred and whoever tired to inhibit this sacred love

of god will be punished...I love my grandchildren forever " ....like seriosuily i

didnyt know wheather to cry or laugh. She is on fully course to smear my name in

the community but dont have interllgent people see what an outrageous thing is

that she is doing and playing God?!?! ahhh so frsutrating... i have now bloceked

her. any thoughts would be appreciated. thankyou

>

[Guest guest]

I'd say that blocking her is the right course to take. If she

unblocked you I'd guess that it is probably because she wants to

upset you. If your repitition of the wording is fairly close to

what she said, it appears to me that she may want to do it

without it being obvious to other people what she's doing and/or

she wants to be able to deny saying anything against you. Notice

that there's no direct reference to you in that comment. Other

people may not even notice that she's trying to smear you,

especially if they aren't close to her. You know it is directed

at you because you know what she's like and you know your

history but others who don't know may just see that comment as a

grandmother expressing love. People who are close enough to her

to know that its a jab at you are likely already swayed to her

side if they're going to take sides.

My philosophy on dealing with stuff like this is that I can only

control what I do, not what others do. I can't control what my

nada thinks and says but I can control how I react to it. I

don't have to let it upset me. I've done nothing wrong and if

she wants to get all upset and say nasty things, that's her

problem. It does no good for me to pay any attention to it. I

actively avoid looking at what she does on Facebook. If you show

yourself to be a good person while she's running around saying

wacky things or things that others can see aren't reasonable,

you're going to come out ahead of her.

At 01:23 AM 09/25/2012 m19728 wrote:

>hi all, so my nada has had fb...when she first got it she

>blocked me and now she has unblocked and i randonly was looking

>at a relatives page when i noticed they had shared a photo that

>my mum had shared with them. it was a picture of my oldest

>daughter who is now 8 with my nada when she was a baby and on

>topof it this is what my nada has written....not exact words

>but something like

> " a grandparents love is sacred and whoever tired to inhibit

>this sacred love of god will be punished...I love my

>grandchildren forever " ....like seriosuily i didnyt know

>wheather to cry or laugh. She is on fully course to smear my

>name in the community but dont have interllgent people see what

>an outrageous thing is that she is doing and playing God?!?!

>ahhh so frsutrating... i have now bloceked her. any thoughts

>would be appreciated. thankyou

>

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Katrina

[Guest guest]

Hi All,

They always seem to have " God " on their side.

And my nada thinks she has the right to inflict the rath of God upon me.

My nada did a similar thing to me at fada's funeral, disowning me in 

front of her relatives, splitting me bad.

The relatives were so offended by nada's behavior towards me that they

took me out to lunch and told me how sick nada had been ALL her life.

The point I'm trying to make is that I think that everyone who reads your nada's

FB post knows where she's coming from.  

She's probably done similar things to them.  

What I would do is Block her.

Also my late DH's family is full of BPDs.  One of them kept trying to contact

me on FB and on linkedin.  I just blocked her. 

When she would try to phone, 

I would politely end the call and hang up.

I would just go the NC route via blocking....Your nada is sick, and TRANSPARENT!

Hugs,

-L

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To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Tuesday, September 25, 2012 5:55 AM

Subject: Re: Using facebook to smear my name?!?!

 

I'd say that blocking her is the right course to take. If she

unblocked you I'd guess that it is probably because she wants to

upset you. If your repitition of the wording is fairly close to

what she said, it appears to me that she may want to do it

without it being obvious to other people what she's doing and/or

she wants to be able to deny saying anything against you. Notice

that there's no direct reference to you in that comment. Other

people may not even notice that she's trying to smear you,

especially if they aren't close to her. You know it is directed

at you because you know what she's like and you know your

history but others who don't know may just see that comment as a

grandmother expressing love. People who are close enough to her

to know that its a jab at you are likely already swayed to her

side if they're going to take sides.

My philosophy on dealing with stuff like this is that I can only

control what I do, not what others do. I can't control what my

nada thinks and says but I can control how I react to it. I

don't have to let it upset me. I've done nothing wrong and if

she wants to get all upset and say nasty things, that's her

problem. It does no good for me to pay any attention to it. I

actively avoid looking at what she does on Facebook. If you show

yourself to be a good person while she's running around saying

wacky things or things that others can see aren't reasonable,

you're going to come out ahead of her.

At 01:23 AM 09/25/2012 m19728 wrote:

>hi all, so my nada has had fb...when she first got it she

>blocked me and now she has unblocked and i randonly was looking

>at a relatives page when i noticed they had shared a photo that

>my mum had shared with them. it was a picture of my oldest

>daughter who is now 8 with my nada when she was a baby and on

>topof it this is what my nada has written....not exact words

>but something like

> " a grandparents love is sacred and whoever tired to inhibit

>this sacred love of god will be punished...I love my

>grandchildren forever " ....like seriosuily i didnyt know

>wheather to cry or laugh. She is on fully course to smear my

>name in the community but dont have interllgent people see what

>an outrageous thing is that she is doing and playing God?!?!

>ahhh so frsutrating... i have now bloceked her. any thoughts

>would be appreciated. thankyou

>

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Katrina