RE: Re: Nada Messages on Facebook

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That is a very good idea - I have a friend who created a " "

account, using an alternate email, and only people she wants to communicate

with know it is her. Her profile picture is also very generic - no photos.

I do understand the incredible fear and anxiety you are talking about. I

can't make sense of it, but yes, it is AWFUL.

Take care,

_____

From: WTOAdultChildren1

[mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ] On Behalf Of anuria67854

Sent: October-16-12 10:15 AM

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Subject: Re: Nada Messages on Facebook

(((((slarsen)))))

I know how upsetting it is to be stalked and harassed. You've done pretty

much all you can do, seems to me, short of taking out a restraining order.

Unfortunately there's not a lot of protection available for those who are

being cyber-stalked. How horrible for you. I was cyber-stalked pretty much

daily for about 3 years by a former friend who (surprise! surprise!) turned

out to have narcissistic pd, and although I did everything possible to block

her and the attempted contact virtually vanished, she still tries from time

to time and it IS unnerving, I agree.

Facebook is kind of a two-edged sword from my point of view and its an ideal

stalking ground for the personality-disordered to utilize. Is it possible

for you to create an anonymous ID and rejoin it so that only your friends

know its you, but your foo doesn't? Then you can delete your real-name

account and just communicate with those you feel safe having as Facebook

friends?

-Annie

>

> Well, it's been a long time since I've posted.

>

> I've been NC from my nada for about 4 years now. In the past she tried

emailing me but I was able to direct her emails straight to the trash. Then

she freaked me out one time by showing up at my front door. I was so

terrified at seeing her standing there I started shaking and felt like I was

going to throw up. I locked myself in the bathroom until she went away. Of

course she had to leave a note along with a " gift " -- some stupid book about

some artist I never heard of.

>

> I've since moved from the state and have felt safer as there's been no

more attempts at contact from her -- or so I thought.

>

> Anyhow, I had long ago gone through Facebook and blocked everyone who had

her (fairly common) name. Yesterday, I was checking my messages and

accidentially hit the " other " tab -- which is generally where all my spam

goes to.

>

> And there it was. Two messages from her, dated this summer. I didn't read

them, but the physical sense of shock charging through my body at just

SEEING THEM THERE was palpable.

>

> I feel so many different emotions. Fear, mostly. Anger, that she's found

another way of attempting contact even though she KNOWS I don't want to hear

from her ever again. Rage and Shame that she's probably been stalking me on

Facebook for months -- years, possibly -- without my knowing. How typical.

They just LOVE invading your privacy, don't they?

>

> My nada is an evil witch. A disgusting, self-pitying pig who should've had

me removed from her care by CPS. She's turned my whole family against me --

so me and my son are ostracized, she REALLY gets off on that.

>

> The rage / fear / pain that comes up over some simpering self-serving

messages left by her months ago on Facebook is SHOCKING to me!!!

>

> Anyhow, it does feel better to write about it to people who can

understand.... possibly the only ones who really truly DO understand.

>

> Thanks for reading.

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