apology

[Guest guest]

> You have no need to apologise to me, I took no offence at your

remarks and believe that you were just trying to be prudent and warn

of a possible hoax situation.

I don't really mind a hoax as long as no one is hurt. People can

delete posts as they wish nor are they forced to answer if they don't

choose to do so.

When I broke my ankle I participated in a forum where there was

someone who claimed to be a young person who suffered a long series of

problems with her ankle. I must say I wondered if she was just

playing with us, but decided it didn't matter to me. No one was being

hurt by it. Other people who read the responses might learn something.

What I don't like is attacks against individuals such as happened to

Rob on another forum. That does hurt people and can be very

devastating to vulnerable individuals and the evil posters may even

target the vulnerable ones.

Judy

[Guest guest]

Hi Judy

I must admit that I hadn't hidden the fact that I suffered from depression, I

didn't see any point. To me it was an integral part of the reason I was taking

part in the forum.

I was a good target because I was very up front with my desire to help other

people who were going through the same thing that I had suffered, i.e. the

bullying and harassment at work. I actually spent a lot of time researching the

laws that could be used to help people and letting them know which bits were

most useful for there grievances.

It was strange how I was targeted also.

I had been flamed twice before on site and had answered the flamer blow for blow

and of course been told off by the moderators for doing so, in fact I went back

on moderation after the second time for a couple of weeks. But, the third time I

was flamed it came out of the blue and was not on site, but off site at my home

e-mail address. The person who flamed me consequently left a clear e-mail

address to see, so I checked the membership list of the forum and there was no

such person listed as a member. I told the moderators before I did the check,

but after I had checked I decided, that since this person wasn't a forum member,

that I was going to publish the e-mail on the forum so that every member knew

what had happened. I don't like secrets like this as I have seen the damage done

when bullying is kept secret by companies, at first hand - it cost me my job

health and savings, plus a lot of other money also.

I was then contacted by another moderator who proceeded to have a go at me for

publishing this person's e-mail address on the forum. She said that the person

believed that I had been insensitive with some of the answers that I had given

to people the night before. The moderator also said that she didn't know who the

person was.

I asked the moderator where in the e-mail that had been sent to me the flamer

had said I was insensitive and actually was very sarcastic in asking the

moderator whether the fact that the flamer was supposedly a woman and the

moderator was one also that she could read something in what had been said that

I couldn't see or was there something special about the moderators monitor that

allowed her to see this sentiment.

The flamer's e-mail basically said

" What are you a legal specialist or just some know-it-all Brit. Why don't you

give it a rest and let somebody else answer a question. I am sick of your hollow

sincerity " .

Then I also asked the moderator how could she know that the flamer had said I

had been insensitive, as it wasn't in the e-mail, if she didn't know who the

flamer was.

This question was never answered and the moderator still kept having a go at me

saying that what I was doing was emotionally blackmailing her, I had told the

moderator that I was upset by the flaming.

Later I decided to leave the forum and return with a different e-mail address as

a means of deflecting flamers from my home e-mail and deleting them

automatically and when I did this the moderators decided that I was not allowed

to re-join the forum.

At this time an e-mail was sent to me that twisted and misrepresented anything

they could to use as an excuse for getting rid of me, which since this was a

tactic used in my bullying and harassment also, had the effect of upsetting me

even more.

Funny that both these methods of attack were used because I can only remember

talking to one person about how I was bullied and it just happens to be this

moderator. She had given me and a deaf friend a lift from a railway station to

where we were meeting some others from the group. The deaf friend was sat in the

back of the vehicle and I was in the front seat next to the moderator who was

driving so the deaf friend could not have read my lips or known what I was

talking about.

In the end I accused the moderators of using their positions to bully me out of

the forum and that they were no better than the companies that they were

supposedly helping people to fight against. Went down like a lead balloon of

course, but the tactics they were using were exactly the same, accuse someone

and never let them answer the accusations and get rid of the person as quickly

as possible.

I know this is not about diabetes but it is a full explanation of why I ended up

sending the e-mail I did, basically asking for help - the wrong sort as you

pointed out all of you quite eloquently.

Forgive me for penning such a lengthy e-mail.

Rob

[Guest guest]

I forgot and hit send before deleting! so I apologize. hugs, ML

[Guest guest]

Did you not mean to send that info about your medical group?

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> I forgot and hit send before deleting! so I apologize. hugs, ML

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[Guest guest]

I meant to send the info but not all the prior messages and the disclaimer

stuff at the bottom is all. I was apologizing for not following our group

rules for deleting the prior total message. love, ML

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