SSDD

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For those that don't know what that stands for...Same Sh!t, Different Day.

I haven't been on here in months I think. I was busy with school (which I had to

quit) , now I am busy with my dad, who has been diagnosed with terminal,

inoperable cancer. He is also too weak to receive chemo or any other treatment.

He and nada have been divorced for many years and I am here to help take care of

him.

I am also dealing with the not so subtle digs from nada. She lives mere blocks

away and she has already brought up the same crap again that she drug out and

tried to bludgeon me with right after my late husbands funeral. (If you want to

see what that was about, search my online name, CmeBfree with the words, REALLY,

you want to do this NOW)

I usually just put up my boundaries and enforce them along with consequences

without really explaining them to nada. I find that explaining boundaries and

consequences to just be asking for a fight with my nada. However, I am going to

cut off all contact if she doesn't leave this one alone. I have so much stress

and crap to deal with as it is. My dad is dying, I am trying to stay on top of

my son taking online classes, and the one year anniversary of my husbands

passing is less than a month away. I am also staying in my dad's run down house

which is a stress all its own. Bad, plumbing, bad insulation, everything sticks

or just won't work quite right and it is more than a bit dirty. I want to be

here for my dad and I will do everything I can, but if nada doesn't crawl outta

my butt, she is going to find herself exiled. I have enough to deal with.

So should I even try to talk to her about this and how precariously close she is

to me going NC? Is it even worth it?

CmeBfree