weird never-ending situation

October 28, 2012

this one is just bizarre and I'm at a loss:

Back in May, I texted fada that I couldn't return his call that night because I

was out for an event, and told him I'd call the next day. He left me tons of

voicemails that night, to which I texted in the morning that I'm not going to

tolerate this behavior from him if we're going to have a relationship (oops?).

I called that night, as promised. Talked to mom first, then she handed the phone

to fada. In the background, he screams loud enough for me to hear " I don't want

to talk, I'm BUSY!! "

This happened multiple times after when I called home.

So, I gave up trying to talk to him on the phone.

I start getting these emails from him outlining our entire relationship, saying

how I stabbed him in the back and screwed up the relationship at every point. He

wants an explanation on how I hurt him so much. I reply with something like

" it's not what I intended, I can't have a relationship w you if everything we

talk about is negative, I hope we can work on this. " To which, I get completely

ignored and berated for something I did 5 years ago. I reply with a similar

line, broken record. He continues with his berating emails.

I eventually stopped responding and so did he. At this point, it's been 6 months

since we've talked to each other. My entire extended family knows about the

situation, how since he hasn't talked to me, because he MISSES ME SO MUCH, he

can barely sleep or eat or focus at work. The whole family is tired of this

situation and just wants me to give in and call him.

It's been six months, and giving in now would mean that if this situation

happened again, I'd fall and take the blame for him, and repeat.. but it's a

stalemate, he's unwilling to admit he's screwed up, and I'm the more sane one

who everyone is expecting to just give in and end this situation.

Thanksgiving and Christmas are coming up,on top of that, and I really don't know

what to do. I wish he could get help, I wish he could admit to his mistakes, but

he's waiting for me to jump in and save him, as the child.

Advice please??

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