Guest guest Posted October 29, 2012 Report Share Posted October 29, 2012 Crissie: I know it's been 11 years since you posted this, but I'm new to the list and I decided I would like to begin at the beginning. Hence, my 11-years-later reply to this. >When I put my foot down about where I wanted to go and what choices >I was going to make, she actually went down to my high school and >unenrolled me. > >I don't know why that is so hard for me to get over. It was almost >10 years ago, but it bothers me to this day. I really feel like she >stole that experience from me. I am appalled and shocked all over again FOR you. Maybe you have managed to let it go in the past 11 years since you posted (and I hope you have), but I wouldn't blame you one bit if you hadn't. You're right; she stole this experience from you. Betrayed you. She VIOLATED you. I hope I haven't re-dredged anything up, but I think your feelings are totally justified. > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: mteel62568@... > > Lissa, > >>>BPDs consider it " abandonment when you become a separate person " > became really clear to me as a teenager when my mother's control over > me began to slip and the peer group took over. she was furious and > still hasn't forgiven me - describes me as " rebellious " to others > still. > > > > That is brilliant!!!! I have been wondering for so long what exactly it was > that I did as a teenager that was so bad!!! I was an honor student, a > cheerleader, the lead in the high school musicals, president of my class, > but I was a terrible daughter that no one could possibly be proud of... I > remember vividly my entire senior year was some sort of go away, but don't > go away... " You should go to Brown. Have you ever thought of applying > somewhere in Alaska? I always thought you wanted to go to and . > You shouldn't even bother... no one good will take you with those grades > (3.8 gpa). You might as well go to community college. " What about what I > wanted? I wanted to go to San Diego State. I wanted to be a marine > biologist. That was and is still my true love (even in Idaho - life takes > you funny places and you make funny decisions). When I put my foot down > about where I wanted to go and what choices I was going to make, she > actually went down to my high school and unenrolled me. She came home one > day (about a month before graduation) and made a big announcement to my > father and I that I didn't deserve to go to high school. Shocked, my father > took me back to school the next day where we were told that once students > over the age of 18 were unenrolled, they weren't allowed to re-enroll. It > was some sort of antiquated rule that the district had to prevent seniors > from taking off half a year of school and still being able to graduate. We > appealed to the school board to no avail. I have a GED. I'm sure you all > hear the undertones of bitterness here!!! I don't know why that is so hard > for me to get over. It was almost 10 years ago, but it bothers me to this > day. I really feel like she stole that experience from me. > > No crying over spilled milk, but THANK YOU Lissa for bringing that to light. > I am not a black sheep!!! Until I read your e-mail, I wasn't able to figure > out the reasons behind her actions. Now I know why... Now I also know that > I did everything I could to make her proud of me, she just isn't capable. > > Thanks for the insight! > > XOXO, > Crissie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 29, 2012 Report Share Posted October 29, 2012 I wonder where the original members are these days and how they are doing with it all. Ashana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 5, 2012 Report Share Posted November 5, 2012 Oh my gosh, this is a heart-rending story! I cannot believe a parent could un-enroll a child who was excelling in school and the school did not honor the CHILD and father's wish for them to be re-enrolled. This seems to me to be a travesty all the way around. I am mad at the world when it supports crazy behavior that makes no sense. What child would drop out of school a month before graduation, with no good reason? You know, my nada threatened to take me out of school and I thought it was a threat full of hooey... and that was back in the mid 1970's. Reading ModOasis's post of this happening to her, twenty years ago, is a bit like a bullet going whizzing by my left ear and grazing me, and me thinking it was a pesky wasp that stung me. Wow, my nada could have done this to me! Only my grades were not as high as Mod's... and I was not about to get a scholarship to go to any university. My nada had told me I had to earn a scholarship to go to college. I did not repeat the high score of my PSAT, unlike all the others who were merit semi-finalists.... so I did not get a scholarship. Nada blames me for that to this day. Though thankfully she shut up about the money I ended up " wasting " on my college education because I took out loans. Fortunately, my schools were public institutions. One of them was UC Berkeley, so nothing to feel TOO ashamed about, ffi-ing nada!!! , who obviously is mad reading this story Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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