Re: I can't believe it, but i did it! (long post...sorry)

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Sorry...pre-mature send...my daughter never even received a call from them

wishing her a happy 21st birthday. My birthday silently came and went. The

beauty of it all? It took her until July to find out where we lived! Well

after some mega drama involving nada and fada screwing over my daughter

shit really hit the fan. Then, one day mid-august my daughter dropped by,

hugging me as if I had returned from the dead. She was hysterical. I

finally calmed her down and found out that nada had called my daughter at

work, flipping out, telling my daughter that fada had just got off the

phone with the sheriff's office and they said I had been arrested for

credit card fraud but I escaped enroute and they considered me armed and

dangerous and had orders to " shoot me on sight " . My daughter, her boyfriend

and a couple of friends of hers all left work to search for me. She (my

daughter) had tried calling me during that time but got my v/m. During that

time frame I had taken a bath, gone to the pool and taken my dog to the dog

park. My phone was on vibrate and left at home. Well...that was all it

took....I called her AND fada and gave them a good piece of my mind and

told them that my entire family was D-O-N-E. DONE with her lies and drama.

NONE of them were going to be a part of ANY of our lives ever again and

they were all dead to me. I didn't even gey it all out and my mother said

in a very cheery tone " oh, ok! "

We finally did it! We moved out AND are finished with them for good! My

biggest regret? Not doing it sooner!!! It's been a rough year+ and we are

still going to the food bank for food but we are 1000% happier! Last

Christmas was rough....we had NO money whatsoever but my friends collected

up $200 and gave me a gift certificate for some groceries and our church

paid our rent and our electric bill and through donations raised $1,300 for

us and my husband's aunt and uncle bought us a Christmas tree. It was the

best Christmas ever! It was the first Christmas ever that was filled

completely with love. We didn't have many presents but we didn't care....we

were finally happy and free! And that my friends, is truly priceless!

Wish me luck as I embark on my first journey preparing and hosting my very

first Thanksgiving. I will be doing all of the decorating, planning and

cooking an entire Thanksgiving feast all on my own for the first time

ever!! (Last year I was sick so hubby and daughters went to his family's

house) It will be an adventure and I can't wait. Word through the grapefine

is that nada is all depressed because nobody is coming to her house and it

will be just the three of them. Oh boo-fricken-hoo. I don't feel the least

bit sorry for them!

I hope all of you have a happy and stress free holiday!! It CAN be done. If

I can do it, anybody can!

~~Bunny

On Monday, November 12, 2012, Beach Bunny dranbauer.family@...>

wrote:

> First, I'd like to apologize for not participating in a while. I just

needed to completely free myself from all things related to BPD for a

while. Reading all of these posts I find many situations are IDENTICAL to

mine and when I would read various posts I would just re-live my own trauma

which I desperately needed to free myself from. Please bear with me as I go

into rewind mode to give you all the entire story.

>

> Last August, 2011 my youngest daughter left home here in land and

moved into her dorm at WVU where she received a full ride and majoring in

industrial engineering. She had a move in date for the 2nd week in August

since she made the cheer squad there. (She is actually on a cheerleading

scholarship ...her older sister cheers for the Ravens here in Baltimore)

Anyway, we went took her out there and spent the next day sightseeing. We

didn't get to do HALF of what we wanted to do and hubby has some vacation

time so we returned the last week in August for the week. We wanted to see

her cheer for her first college game and we also wanted to be in town on

the 30th to celebrate her 18th birthday...and yes....finish up the

sightseeing we didn't have time for during our first trip. With both kids

out of the nest we decided that this was the PERFECT time to have the

bedrooms and living and dining rooms re-painted so we packed up our

gigantic bedroom into cardboard boxes and moved them to a different part of

the house. We shared a yard with NAda and fada ....yes...we lived NEXT

DOOR. So they were the obvious choice to watch the house, our animals and

allow the painter in and out and oh btw we saw something on the news about

a potential storm so keep an eye on the place in case of flooding. We

placed the emergency pump up, ran the hose, and showed them which switch to

flip should water begin to creep into our house. Well, that storm?...yeah,

that turned out to be hurricane Irene. We left on a Wednesday, the storm

hit Friday and sure enough the house flooded. We came home the following

Wednesday to 3 feet of water in our home. Everything was lost...even all of

our clothes because it sat in the boxes SOAKING in the flood water.

Oh.....and my animals? An hour after we left she let our dog out and NEVER

checked on our two cats. Luckily a neighbor took in our dog but with the

house being under 3 feet of water they had no access to food, clean water

or their litterbox. When we came home they were nearly dead. Nada and

fada's excuse? " We decided we didn't feel like helping afterall...besides

all you own is junk anyway. Throw it out. When you heard it was a hurricane

you should have come home so it's your own fault! " Furious doesn't even

cover it. I am actually a little ashamed to admit that I actually took the

gas can out of our garage and planned on burning their house down. Looking

back I'm glad my husband stopped me. Well that was it...the last straw.

After we pumped all the water out we just found that black mold had

infiltrated all of our walls. FINALLY....we collected a whole $5,000 from

the insurance company and got the hell out of dodge.

>

> We did reluctantly spend a very drama filled Thanksgiving and Christmas

there but that was it. My oldest daughter never even received a call from

them wishing her a happy 21st birthday.

>

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> Kisses and Nibbles,

> Bunny

>

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Kisses and Nibbles,

Bunny