Re: the deepest depths of BPD

November 18, 2012

Is there such a thing as an inverse golden rule…?

Others do unto me as I do to others.

Example: my cats use their long hair to drag litter all over the house because I

think they resent me.

This convoluted conclusion can only come from someone who would do spiteful

things because she resent the target.

Thus…others do to me as I do to others.

Good morning! Hope you all have a good week! Make the best of it for

*your*selves! Be extra kind and nurturing to your hurt soul!

Hugs and positive thoughts,

November 25, 2012

My NADA is the same way with her cats, who are very affectionate with me because

I am a quiet person who doesn't screech unexpectedly all the time. As a result,

her cats come slinking into my room to hide in the closet or under the bed.

NADA got so jealous that the cats like me that I had to put tuna oil on my mom's

house-shoes. Mom can't smell anything, and it made the cats follow her around.

That's one of my totally pathetic BPD NADA coping tricks.

>

> As I pick up the crumbled wreckage that was nada's brief life, she was only

> 69, I am faced with so many absurdities that it makes me weep.

>

> For example, in her will she disowned friends and family leaving all her

> money to the SPCA. However, she made no provisions for her own cats. Thus,

> these two poor frightened little things were taken to a local shelter. The

> executor of her will did nothing to help them. I drove two and a half hours

> to rescue them the day after I was contacted by the Public Administrator's

> office. The executor, nada's investment manager, had failed to contact

> anyone in the family. Eventually County stepped in as the jerk had even

> failed to make arrangement for her cremation and her body was still in the

> morge!

>

> Nada had formerly made lavish provisions in her will for her beloved pets as

> such is allowed in California. She even requested that her ashes be mixed

> with the ashes of former pets before all the ashes were spread at sea. I

> couldn't understand why she had left these cats out of her will. They are

> absolutely beautiful but very shy, as if they have had almost no contact

> with humans whatsoever. In fact, even the neighbors were shocked to learn

> that she had them. No one had ever seen these cats before.

>

> This afternoon the little Light Bulb finally lit. Not only was mother BPD

> with people, she was BPD with her animals as well! She had been very

> controlling with former pets. They were never out of her sight and required

> to do as she wished on command (exactly what she expected of her human

> family as well). While the two little cats I've rescued are so beautiful

> that they could be featured on the cover of Cat Fancy, they are not

> affectionate. Nada would have been upset by that. She would have been

> dismayed that their long hair so often catches bits of cat litter. I'm

> sweeping so frequently that my vaccuum is going to file a grivence with the

> National Union of Household Appliances due to extended working hours! Nada

> would have believe theses were doing it on purpose to spite her and show her

> they were rejecting her. No wonder it's taking these poor little things so

> long to form trusting relationships! All they have known was being resented!

>

> MB

>

December 1, 2012

Thank you Elaine!

The story of placing tuna oil on your nada's slippers so at least her cats would

venture near here made me laugh and healed a bit of my pain.

Beth

Re: the deepest depths of BPD

My NADA is the same way with her cats, who are very affectionate with me

because I am a quiet person who doesn't screech unexpectedly all the time. As a

result, her cats come slinking into my room to hide in the closet or under the

bed.

NADA got so jealous that the cats like me that I had to put tuna oil on my

mom's house-shoes. Mom can't smell anything, and it made the cats follow her

around.