Forgiveness and letting go of the anger

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Last night one of my best friends got engaged and it was the happiest moment for

me because I know how hard dating has been for her and all of the challenges and

struggles she's endured to get to this place. My husband and I went to her

engagement party with all of hers and her finance family and friends and you

could feel the joy in the room for them.

While I was super excited my husband was saddened by the whole thing because as

a child of a NADA who spousified him when we got engaged it was utter hell. She

threatened to kill herself when we annouced to the family and our friends and

our entire engagement period was overcome with lies that she made up about me to

convince family members that I was this horrible person stealing her own son.

That I beat him, that I threatened him, that I was pregnant and that was the

only reason we were together, and on and on and on.

This all happened this past January so it hasn't even been a year and we've been

married for 6 months now and things have swung back and forth with his family.

He's been setting boundaries enforcing them but this has been the first time

that he's realized her mental illnesses and it's taking time to adjust accept

therapy and so on.

I guess my question is when does the hurt stop and forgiveness comes in or when

or how do you deal with the anger.

On such a happy occasion for people that we love, I don't want that to be

surrounded by sadness because we couldn't have that happy family moment and I

don't want to influence other parts of our lives together.

How do you prevent the crazy from getting into your head? (the ultimate

question)