Guest guest Posted November 20, 2012 Report Share Posted November 20, 2012 AJ and happyhomefires: My relationship with my parents was much like you described. My father was isolated from friends and family and abused emotionally, financially, and physically by my mother. For years he was subservient to my domineering mom and defended her every word and move. He is wheelchair bound, which makes it worse. The day I found out about the physical abuse I removed my dad from the home and had her involuntarily committed for help (Baker Act). Ten days later she got out by threatening lies about sexual assault against the staff. It was only after that, that we began to learn about BPD. Dad now thinks clearly and can admit how she had manipulated all of us, especially him. He is living I the same town as I and we have not heard from her, aside from her divorce attorney. And there, the lies continue with her... I go back and forth asking myself " is she evil " or " is she sick " and wondering why no one, including me, caught on to how twisted things had become. I guess we were all too busy trying to swim out of the whirlpool without being eaten by her. Sent from my iPhone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 2012 Report Share Posted November 23, 2012 This sounds so true and I really feel your pain here. Is she sick? Is she evil? No one can answer that but I have been thinking that no one who is happy or well abuses other. My very superficial understanding of buddhism involves the idea that evil comes from suffering. Interesting question. I certainly haven't been able to answer it either. On Tue, Nov 20, 2012 at 5:54 PM, Sondra bpddaughter@...>wrote: > ** > > > AJ and happyhomefires: > My relationship with my parents was much like you described. My father was > isolated from friends and family and abused emotionally, financially, and > physically by my mother. For years he was subservient to my domineering mom > and defended her every word and move. He is wheelchair bound, which makes > it worse. The day I founhisd out about the physical abuse I removed my dad > from the home and had her involuntarily committed for help (Baker Act). Ten > days later she got out by threatening lies about sexual assault against the > staff. It was only after that, that we began to learn about BPD. Dad now > thinks clearly and can admit how she had manipulated all of us, especially > him. He is living I the same town as I and we have not heard from her, > aside from her divorce attorney. And there, the lies continue with her... > > I go back and forth asking myself " is she evil " or " is she sick " and > wondering why no one, including me, caught on to how twisted things had > become. I guess we were all too busy trying to swim out of the whirlpool > without being eaten by her. > > Sent from my iPhone > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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