I Let Myself Be Brainwashed

[Guest guest]

But " happily ever after fails "

And we've been poisoned by these fairy tales

~ THE END OF THE INNOCNCE by Don Henley

As one of the last generation of Southern women to be raised before the advent

of Women's Liberation, I fully bought into the dream of Prince Charming, the

white picket fence, and happily ever evers that require no work. But let me tell

ya Honey, those fairy tales are a load of what male cows leave in the pasture!

Every night in my pink canopy bed, I prayed for that Prince Charming rescue,

that way off the roller coast of high drama and merry-go-round of physical

abuse. I didn't realize that nada's BPD diagnoisis and fada refusally to stay on

his anti-depressants meant that my both of my parents were mentally ill. I

didn't know that I was living in a Black Forest filled with Flying Monkeys ruled

over by the Wicked Witch and the man behind the curtain.

After many painful years of trying to figure out why the dreams I was raised

with were evading me, I slowly discovered that NO ONE is going to ever rescue

you. You have to rip off that useless ball gown, pick up a sword and sheild and

get on with rescuing yourself. Prince Charming? He isn't coming. He never was.

Dreams about him will only break what's left of your heart. Tell yourself that

Prince Charming got roasted out of his mind with the dragon or he married the

wicked witch (b****?) next door. Get over him. Get over the dreams that were

really just another piece of your waking nightmare. Learn to live and to love

yourself. Don't make the mistake of marrying the Court Jester because he makes

you laugh or the Wounded Warrior because you think you can fix him. You don't

need that kind of " bad love " that sucks back into the past. Look for another

" real life human being " and be slow to give your heart. Don't settle for

anything less than healthy, mature, and serene. Be willing to work for it. It

doesn't magically appear as a gift from a fairy godmother.

It's ok, heck it's even a good thing, to have grown up from being the little

girl feed on dreams into a clear minded woman with her eyes wide open to the

reality of BPD. Sure, I would have LOVED to have been a princess but I thrive in

my own fashion and create my own happily ever after.

Thank you for coming along for the ride as I rid myself of the FOG.

MB

[Guest guest]

MB - Love the fairy tale spin!!! That was a great piece of writing. J It

made my day.

[Guest guest]

Thanks, ...

[Guest guest]

Thank you . This group helps me to let go of the " Learned Behavior " from

living in a BPD family that STILL causes problems for me as an adult. I've

learned so much and adore being part of this wonderful community.

Have a happy and peace filled day,

MB

Re: I Let Myself Be Brainwashed

MB - Love the fairy tale spin!!! That was a great piece of writing. J It

made my day.

[Guest guest]

Wow. Quite lovely. I have certainly been with court jesters and wounded

warriors. MLA

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> But " happily ever after fails "

> And we've been poisoned by these fairy tales

> ~ THE END OF THE INNOCNCE by Don Henley

>

> As one of the last generation of Southern women to be raised before the advent

of Women's Liberation, I fully bought into the dream of Prince Charming, the

white picket fence, and happily ever evers that require no work. But let me tell

ya Honey, those fairy tales are a load of what male cows leave in the pasture!

>

> Every night in my pink canopy bed, I prayed for that Prince Charming rescue,

that way off the roller coast of high drama and merry-go-round of physical

abuse. I didn't realize that nada's BPD diagnoisis and fada refusally to stay on

his anti-depressants meant that my both of my parents were mentally ill. I

didn't know that I was living in a Black Forest filled with Flying Monkeys ruled

over by the Wicked Witch and the man behind the curtain.

>

>

>

> After many painful years of trying to figure out why the dreams I was raised

with were evading me, I slowly discovered that NO ONE is going to ever rescue

you. You have to rip off that useless ball gown, pick up a sword and sheild and

get on with rescuing yourself. Prince Charming? He isn't coming. He never was.

Dreams about him will only break what's left of your heart. Tell yourself that

Prince Charming got roasted out of his mind with the dragon or he married the

wicked witch (b****?) next door. Get over him. Get over the dreams that were

really just another piece of your waking nightmare. Learn to live and to love

yourself. Don't make the mistake of marrying the Court Jester because he makes

you laugh or the Wounded Warrior because you think you can fix him. You don't

need that kind of " bad love " that sucks back into the past. Look for another

" real life human being " and be slow to give your heart. Don't settle for

anything less than healthy, mature, and serene. Be willing to work for it. It

doesn't magically appear as a gift from a fairy godmother.

>

> It's ok, heck it's even a good thing, to have grown up from being the little

girl feed on dreams into a clear minded woman with her eyes wide open to the

reality of BPD. Sure, I would have LOVED to have been a princess but I thrive in

my own fashion and create my own happily ever after.

>

>

>

> Thank you for coming along for the ride as I rid myself of the FOG.

>

>

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> MB

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[Guest guest]

Mlatitlepage,

Thank you!

Many KO's find themselves " addicted to bad love " because we have only

experienced high drama, manipulation and abuse. The good news is that we grow,

we heal, we cure ourselves!

Beth

Wow. Quite lovely. I have certainly been with court jesters and wounded

warriors. MLA