Trust?

[Guest guest]

I am trying to pace myself through all of this update regarding my mom and

me going NC.

It is all very energy exhausting and I want to have some left for my family

and myself at Christmas.

I am finding trust is again becoming an issue for me, just in simple matters

even. This all stems from recent (& past FOO events). I am extra sensitive

and guarded and probably reading in too much and trying to stop the

ruminating about the past.

Trusting life and trusting people is an issue at present. I need to be

vigilant in not going emotionally overboard negatively. This takes lots of

energy.

If any of you would like to share on this, please do. We need to take care

of ourselves despite the negative reality that surrounds us. It cuts to the

soul.

Twyla

[Guest guest]

With all the betrayal and cruelty a KO experiences growing up, trusting other

can become very difficult. Personally, I struggle with this one and consider it

the biggest of my Waif/Hermit fleas.

Be gentle with yourself. Reach out to your spouse and your TRUE friends on this

matter. Sometimes just going for coffee with a true friend who isn't judgmental

will help me over a rough spot. My husband is good at listening but, as a member

of a real family, doesn't know how to respond or even relate to some of the

things I share with him.

Remember that all of us are here for you. Let us know when you are hurt or when

you have questions. We'll be here as you have been for us. You don't have to

face this alone!

Beth

[Guest guest]

I need to hear this..many hugs and thanks

Twyla

From: WTOAdultChildren1

[mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ] On Behalf Of Rico and Beth

Sent: Sunday, December 02, 2012 08:02 PM

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Subject: Re: Trust?

With all the betrayal and cruelty a KO experiences growing up, trusting

other can become very difficult. Personally, I struggle with this one and

consider it the biggest of my Waif/Hermit fleas.

Be gentle with yourself. Reach out to your spouse and your TRUE friends on

this matter. Sometimes just going for coffee with a true friend who isn't

judgmental will help me over a rough spot. My husband is good at listening

but, as a member of a real family, doesn't know how to respond or even

relate to some of the things I share with him.

Remember that all of us are here for you. Let us know when you are hurt or

when you have questions. We'll be here as you have been for us. You don't

have to face this alone!

Beth