Re: Flying Monkey attack incoming! All hands to battlestations! Evasive

[Guest guest]

HI, I agree they are recruits and have an agenda. You're not being paranoid.

Can't you just send them back a very nice " thank you for the invite, I

appreciate it and it's very thoughtful. I wish you a wonderful merry gathering,

I will be out of town but would like to meet with you and your spouse may be

before Boxing day? " …then invite them once again just so you're over the top

polite and cordial.

Of course they won't take you up on it, and if they do, and the start in on you

about nada...change the subject. If they don't get the hint, flat out tell them

that you'd rather not talk about nada and the difficulties between the two of

you, and would like to talk more about them and their lives. If they continue to

press you, you can tell them you had hoped they were genuine in their desire for

a relationship with you however you can see now that they are not interested in

that so you'll be leaving. Good bye, and leave cash at the register to pay for

all the meals/coffees/etc. And be done.

You don't even really have to go that far and put that much energy into it and

just politely decline and send a nice arrangement to their house that day with

your warm regards. =) I'm always for taking the high ground and do so while not

being accountable to the flying monkeys. It's the tight rope part of the BPD

circus! But ABOVE ALL don't give in!!! imo, of course

*hugs*