Shocked at Mum's sudden passing

[Guest guest]

I've posted alot on here over the years and several times in recent months.

However, this is a different sort of post.

We took my Mum out for a birthday meal on Saturday. She became ill with

diarrhoea and vomitting later that evening and was taken to hospital. We spent

all night with her in A&E (Emergency Room to all you American friends) where she

showed signs of improvement. We left around 8am and i told her i'd be back

later to visit on my own. (We live an hour and a half away).

When we got home the plan was to sleep and then me go back later that evening.

I phoned the hospital when we got home and they said Mum had been transferred to

a ward. She'd enjoyed two cups of tea and seemed stable.

Neither of us could sleep and then around 12.45pm i had a phone call to say Mum

had had a cardiac arrest and after 4 rounds of resus she hadn't made it.

I feel shocked and devastated. Despite everything i've written on here (which

has all been factually true) I loved her very much.

[Guest guest]

(((((Jeanie)))))

Its hard to lose a parent, even one who has personality disorder, and it really

is especially difficult when a parent passes away suddenly and unexpectedly. I

imagine you are in quite a state of shock right now.

My condolences to you and your family. I'm glad you have family members

relatively near you so that you can comfort each other. Be gentle with yourself

as you mourn her. Wishing you all the strength and endurance you need.

-Annie

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> I've posted alot on here over the years and several times in recent months.

However, this is a different sort of post.

>

> We took my Mum out for a birthday meal on Saturday. She became ill with

diarrhoea and vomitting later that evening and was taken to hospital. We spent

all night with her in A&E (Emergency Room to all you American friends) where she

showed signs of improvement. We left around 8am and i told her i'd be back

later to visit on my own. (We live an hour and a half away).

>

> When we got home the plan was to sleep and then me go back later that evening.

I phoned the hospital when we got home and they said Mum had been transferred to

a ward. She'd enjoyed two cups of tea and seemed stable.

>

> Neither of us could sleep and then around 12.45pm i had a phone call to say

Mum had had a cardiac arrest and after 4 rounds of resus she hadn't made it.

>

> I feel shocked and devastated. Despite everything i've written on here (which

has all been factually true) I loved her very much.

>

[Guest guest]

Hello Jeanie

I am very sorry to hear of your Mum's passing. I understand all too well

about wanting their hurt to stop yet still loving them.

It's a terrible juxtaposition of feelings.

Take care of yourself and your family, be kind and gentle.

We are all here for you and understand the complexity of your feelings right

now.

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Subject: Shocked at Mum's sudden passing

I've posted alot on here over the years and several times in recent months.

However, this is a different sort of post.

We took my Mum out for a birthday meal on Saturday. She became ill with

diarrhoea and vomitting later that evening and was taken to hospital. We

spent all night with her in A&E (Emergency Room to all you American friends)

where she showed signs of improvement. We left around 8am and i told her i'd

be back later to visit on my own. (We live an hour and a half away).

When we got home the plan was to sleep and then me go back later that

evening. I phoned the hospital when we got home and they said Mum had been

transferred to a ward. She'd enjoyed two cups of tea and seemed stable.

Neither of us could sleep and then around 12.45pm i had a phone call to say

Mum had had a cardiac arrest and after 4 rounds of resus she hadn't made it.

I feel shocked and devastated. Despite everything i've written on here

(which has all been factually true) I loved her very much.

[Guest guest]

Jeanne,

I am so sorry for your indescribable loss.

No matter what, you loved her.

It is really a twisted feeling, all this time to struggle with someone like our

moms, then to lose them.

It's been my life's fear...losing my mom.

I am sending you so much love and strength.

Please have the people around you to hug you tight.

Please tell yourself that you are a wonderful and lovable person.

My heart is with you...and you are connected here to everyone who feels the same

way you do.

Again, condolences.

Amy

[Guest guest]

I'm so sorry for your loss.  I understand exactly what you are saying in that

no matter how they treated us they were still our mothers and we loved them as

we wanted to be loved back.  Take comfort in the fact that you made her last

day pleasant and it was a quick passing, not lingering. 

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To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Tuesday, December 11, 2012 7:54 AM

Subject: RE: Shocked at Mum's sudden passing

 

Hello Jeanie

I am very sorry to hear of your Mum's passing. I understand all too well

about wanting their hurt to stop yet still loving them.

It's a terrible juxtaposition of feelings.

Take care of yourself and your family, be kind and gentle.

We are all here for you and understand the complexity of your feelings right

now.

To: mailto:WTOAdultChildren1%40yahoogroups.com

Subject: Shocked at Mum's sudden passing

I've posted alot on here over the years and several times in recent months.

However, this is a different sort of post.

We took my Mum out for a birthday meal on Saturday. She became ill with

diarrhoea and vomitting later that evening and was taken to hospital. We

spent all night with her in A&E (Emergency Room to all you American friends)

where she showed signs of improvement. We left around 8am and i told her i'd

be back later to visit on my own. (We live an hour and a half away).

When we got home the plan was to sleep and then me go back later that

evening. I phoned the hospital when we got home and they said Mum had been

transferred to a ward. She'd enjoyed two cups of tea and seemed stable.

Neither of us could sleep and then around 12.45pm i had a phone call to say

Mum had had a cardiac arrest and after 4 rounds of resus she hadn't made it.

I feel shocked and devastated. Despite everything i've written on here

(which has all been factually true) I loved her very much.

[Guest guest]

My condolances and deepest sympathy. May you find peace in knowing that you had

a birthday dinner together before it was her time to go.

Beth

Shocked at Mum's sudden passing

I've posted alot on here over the years and several times in recent months.

However, this is a different sort of post.

We took my Mum out for a birthday meal on Saturday. She became ill with

diarrhoea and vomitting later that evening and was taken to hospital. We spent

all night with her in A&E (Emergency Room to all you American friends) where she

showed signs of improvement. We left around 8am and i told her i'd be back later

to visit on my own. (We live an hour and a half away).

When we got home the plan was to sleep and then me go back later that evening.

I phoned the hospital when we got home and they said Mum had been transferred to

a ward. She'd enjoyed two cups of tea and seemed stable.

Neither of us could sleep and then around 12.45pm i had a phone call to say

Mum had had a cardiac arrest and after 4 rounds of resus she hadn't made it.

I feel shocked and devastated. Despite everything i've written on here (which

has all been factually true) I loved her very much.

[Guest guest]

Jeanie, I'm very sorry about your mom. How awful and sudden. I can only imagine

the range of emotions you and your family are going through.

Sending you deepest condolences.

Hugs,

Fiona

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> I've posted alot on here over the years and several times in recent months.

However, this is a different sort of post.

>

> We took my Mum out for a birthday meal on Saturday. She became ill with

diarrhoea and vomitting later that evening and was taken to hospital. We spent

all night with her in A&E (Emergency Room to all you American friends) where she

showed signs of improvement. We left around 8am and i told her i'd be back

later to visit on my own. (We live an hour and a half away).

>

> When we got home the plan was to sleep and then me go back later that evening.

I phoned the hospital when we got home and they said Mum had been transferred to

a ward. She'd enjoyed two cups of tea and seemed stable.

>

> Neither of us could sleep and then around 12.45pm i had a phone call to say

Mum had had a cardiac arrest and after 4 rounds of resus she hadn't made it.

>

> I feel shocked and devastated. Despite everything i've written on here (which

has all been factually true) I loved her very much.

>