The Success Taboo

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I've had the feeling for a long time that success was simply taboo in my BPD

family and get the feeling from other post that this may be a pattern. I'm

curious to see if this group indeed relates to such experiences.

Basically, my nada sabotages attempts and/or makes me pay for anything I do

better than her (like raising kids who are happier and more successful than we

ever were at the same age); academic & professional achievement or anything that

might threaten the image of my sister as the perfect golden child. Essentially

I can't do anything they can't do (and they are pretty inept so there's lots of

stuff !).

My husband, who still doesn't quite get it, wants me to show off my significant

weight loss to both my mother and my sister. Besides the fact it would break

our current Sacred NC Status I couldn't think of a better way to provoke more

abuse on their parts.

Do you find, that:

a. the fact you are able to argue things more logically threatens your BPD

relatives;

b. you have kept a low profile,

c. played down your achievements,

d. out right hid them or even turned down opportunities because of the heat

you'd be likely

to get should your success (and independence) be known?

e. Do you feel this has had an impact on your financial independence?

I have to say " yes " to all of the above.

C.