Guest guest Posted September 29, 2000 Report Share Posted September 29, 2000 Well, I'm sorry to vent a little, but I don't know where else I can do this! Today I was talking with a friend who is due with her 3rd child any day now. We were talking about another friend of ours who is nursing, and I commented that I didn't know that she was nursing ( for some reason, she struck me as someone who would use formula?..) Anyway, she said that yes she was and that she had nursed her first one too, until she had weaned herself. I asked how old the baby was when she *had weaned herself* and she said 6 months old; just like her daughter~ she was 6 mo when she self-weaned too. I told her that it wasn't weaning if it occured before a year. I was struggling for the term " nursing strike " , my mind had just gone completely blank! She just kept insisting that yes, Amy's dd had weaned at 6 mo and so had her 2 girls. Still struggling for the right thing to call it, she just lost her cool with me and said I don't want to argue with you, they weaned, and that was they're choice! Well, with pregnancy hormones just crusing through me, and being frustrated that I couldn't get my point across, I told her that I didn't want to argue either and just hung up on her. I'm just so frustrated because I'm so sick of people treating me like some sort of wacko because I nursed until she was 2! I know that this is where it stems from, they just don't want to hear anyone telling them anything different I swear, it sometimes seems like to me that even some nursing Moms I meet, don't enjoy it ir stick up for it, I don't know why they even do it... S. EDD 4/24/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2000 Report Share Posted September 29, 2000 In a message dated 9/29/00 1:38:22 PM Central Daylight Time, jsachieve@... writes: << swear, it sometimes seems like to me that even some nursing Moms I meet, don't enjoy it ir stick up for it, I don't know why they even do it... S. >> , Boy, do I know exactly what you mean and probably even how you're feeling. I can't believe the women I know/encounter who are breastfeeding but actually know so little about it. Even a girl in our playgroup and I were discussing it Wed. She's preg with her second and I asked her if she'd be nursing the baby ( I already know she *had to quit* very early with her first due to reflux and lack of weight gain). She said 'yeah, I'm gonna try it anyway'. I was trying to be oh-so-encouraging and said " oh, don't go into it with that thought, just tell yourself 'yes, we are gonna make it work'. I even told her that I could tell her of a great place (here!) where she could get lots and lots of great info and encouragement. Well, she's quite a talker anyway but launched into the whole story of how she worked with the lc in where-ever-she-was-from at the time of the last birth and how she just finally told her to give the baby a bottle of *lactose-free* formula " just to see what she (the baby) would do " . Well, my friend tells me, she sucked it right down and the lc's answer was that there is nothing wrong with that baby except that she's hungry. So my friend concluded that she must not have had enough milk, the baby would nurse for hours, still crying, blah, blah, blah.....Not that I don't believe that to be true, just that she absolutely was not gonna take anything I was saying to be in any way helpful. I told her if she does have supply problems, she should definitely try not to supplement with formula, pumping, about the sns, taking herbs and such, all the stuff we all know here but she just had me sooooo frustrated because it wasn't like she was saying 'oh, gee, I didn't realize all that, I'll keep it in mind and let you know if I need any info'. So, I totally see her with a short nursing relationship with this baby too. It is just so frustrating to see people ignorant (literally, not being nasty) and losing out on such a great time because they just don't have the answers or (the right) people to turn to for answers. Thank goodness I found ya'all here--who knows.....I've learned so much here that maybe I would've been one of those people too. I'm glad I've had a great 2+years of nursing with Drake even though I get heck from my mom about it!! Take care! Fawn sahm to Drake 8-18-98 edd 03-05-01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2000 Report Share Posted September 29, 2000 Hi , I would be inclined to feel good that they went for 6 months. I don't argue with my friends when they talk about breastfeeding. I have friends that didn't breastfeed, some who breastfed for 6-9 months, and some who did for 2-1/2 years. I think it says a lot for someone to breastfeed even if they don't enjoy it. This means they are putting their children first. Isn't this part of what motherhood is about? Sometimes we put our needs and wants second to our children. I don't " stick up " for my choice to breastfeed. I just do it. I don't feel the need to explain my choices to people one way or the other. > I swear, it sometimes seems like to me that > even some nursing Moms I meet, don't enjoy it ir stick up for it, I > don't know why they even do it... Carla Zorko, carladee@... Adam Dean Zorko (DOB: 5-9-00) http://home.earthlink.net/~gzorko Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2000 Report Share Posted September 29, 2000 , It is hard to tell people that there is a difference between a baby who goes on a nursing strike or a baby who is distracted by the environment to eat during the day, and a baby who " self-weans " very young. IMO you just have to let them be convinced that it was self-weaning, but add that if they want to nurse their next one longer they should get in touch with you before the baby is born so that you can help them through the tough moments (before it's too late). I believe that helping a mom get passed 4 months without pumping her baby full of cereal is a great first start. Some moms don't know to nurse first. The other biggy is to let moms know that bf babies should wake to eat at night. If the baby is on a no meals at night schedule and then is too distracted during the day to eat (common around 4-6 months of age for many), the mom's milk supply will go away for lack of stimulation and the baby will want to eat other things, or the mom will start giving bottles since the baby will " be still " for that long. I feel for you , better luck with the next mom who you meet. Amy Lynn re: nursing strike (vent) > Well, I'm sorry to vent a little, but I don't know where else I can do >this! Today I was talking with a friend who is due with her 3rd child any >day now. We were talking about another friend of ours who is nursing, and I >commented that I didn't know that she was nursing ( for some reason, she >struck me as someone who would use formula?..) Anyway, she said that yes she >was and that she had nursed her first one too, until she had weaned herself. > I asked how old the baby was when she *had weaned herself* and she said 6 >months old; just like her daughter~ she was 6 mo when she self-weaned too. I >told her that it wasn't weaning if it occured before a year. I was >struggling for the term " nursing strike " , my mind had just gone completely >blank! She just kept insisting that yes, Amy's dd had weaned at 6 mo and so >had her 2 girls. Still struggling for the right thing to call it, she just >lost her cool with me and said I don't want to argue with you, they weaned, >and that was they're choice! > Well, with pregnancy hormones just crusing through me, and being >frustrated that I couldn't get my point across, I told her that I didn't want >to argue either and just hung up on her. I'm just so frustrated because I'm >so sick of people treating me like some sort of wacko because I nursed >until she was 2! I know that this is where it stems from, they just don't >want to hear anyone telling them anything different I swear, it sometimes >seems like to me that even some nursing Moms I meet, don't enjoy it ir stick >up for it, I don't know why they even do it... > > S. >EDD 4/24/01 > > >Give the Gift of Life Breastfeed! >http://www.lactivist.com > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2000 Report Share Posted September 29, 2000 I have a friend who told me that her baby weaned at 6mo,he just didn't want to nurse anymore. I asked her if it was abrupt, she said yes, and I left it at that. I didn't see any point in telling her about nursing strikes, since it wouldn't accomplish anything other than make her feel badly. My two cents, Lynn Re: nursing strike (vent) > Hi , > I would be inclined to feel good that they went for 6 months. I > don't argue with my friends when they talk about breastfeeding. I > have friends that didn't breastfeed, some who breastfed for 6-9 > months, and some who did for 2-1/2 years. I think it says a lot for > someone to breastfeed even if they don't enjoy it. This means they > are putting their children first. Isn't this part of what motherhood is > about? Sometimes we put our needs and wants second to our > children. I don't " stick up " for my choice to breastfeed. I just do it. > I don't feel the need to explain my choices to people one way or > the other. > > > I swear, it sometimes seems like to me that > > even some nursing Moms I meet, don't enjoy it ir stick up for it, I > > don't know why they even do it... > > > Carla Zorko, carladee@... > Adam Dean Zorko (DOB: 5-9-00) > http://home.earthlink.net/~gzorko > > > Give the Gift of Life Breastfeed! > http://www.lactivist.com > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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