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My Nada has unfriended me twice on Facebook now, the first time was pretty legit

I understand where she was coming from and maybe even the 2nd time because

that's when we went NC for 2 months. So I understand. My nada and I have

started talking again, slowly and things have been good so on Christmas she

friended me after we had a pleasant Christmas conversation (Via phone since I

didn't travel home for Christmas).

I didn't accept her friend request because I was nervous. One because I don't

want to keep being friended and unfriended by my Mom. And also I was anxious of

being her friend again because I don't think she knows how to use Facebook

properly and we've gotten into fights over it before. She has said

inappropriate things on my wall to my friends.

I know it's only FB and I know this is so stupid and petty but that's why I feel

like she's in the wrong. It's only FB so don't unfriend me, don't make a big

deal out of stuff, and yet she always thinks I'm in the wrong and she's right.

This morning I tried to have open communication with her like she always says I

need to work on. Well that didn't go so good and we got into a fight about FB.

We kept going around in circles. Then she brought up things in the past and

then out of the blue she says how I think she's a horrible mother and I'm the

perfect daughter. At this point I was still very calm, I hadn't called her

names or anything.

That gives me a lot of insight into how she thinks of herself.

But then at the end she told me that maybe my little brother shouldn't be

friends with me incase we get into a fight and he unfriends me.

Ahhhhhhhhrrrrrgggggghhhhhh!!!!!!

I called her an Asshole and hung up the phone.

I know that was wrong I just hate how she uses my little brother against me.

Like she's trying to control everything. If she can control him then she's

right. And in the end after being so calm she nicked a nerve and I lost

control.

So now I'm once again anxious and nervous that I won't speak to my brother and

sister again. All over Stupid Facebook.

Please let me know what you think. Should I just have friended her because it

is only Facebook (even though I was anxious) and just accepted that she may or

may not unfriend me in the future because that's what she does? Or am I

justified that I shouldn't take that from anyone and that it's petty and stupid?

Has anyone else had similar problems?

Thanks,

Ponnie.