Re: I survived the night/trigger maybe

[Guest guest]

Good morning ,

Sorry to hear that your spouse is abusive. Your situation is not easy.

All I know is that my spouse used to be very abusive (I would fight back and not

take the

abuse). When I told him I wanted a divorce he was very upset and mentioned

counseling,

marriage counseling. Well, we started counseling 4 years ago and he has done a

complete

turn around and I have too. He isn't abusive anymore and I don't have to " fight

back " like

a wildcat. We also go to Celebrate Recovery (a Christian version of AA)... they

have groups

for women emotional/sexual/physical abuse (the one I go in) and other various

groups

(drugs/alcohol etc...) but every group is women only or men only. It is free

too.

It has really helped us both.

anyway, if you haven't already tried counseling, it might be worth a shot. If

he's not open

to counseling then leaving is probably the best thing for you to do.

If you ever want to talk, just send me an email.

Have a wonderful stress free day,

Aimee

[Guest guest]

>

Hi, I understand completely what you are going through.. used to be

a manager of a restaurant, and now have problems taking care of my 3

year old.. my hubby is just now starting to come around but, still

gets frustated.. I guess the more he learns about my condition, the

better he is.. I am newly diagnosed, but be suffering for 3 years,

right after my daughter was born..during the first year I was

suffering , all we did was fight and his family thought I was just a

lazy, good for nothing wife.. they still really have not come

around, and still give me problems on occasion. If you don't live

it, you just don't understand how someone could have no outwardly

problems, and hurt so bad inside. I still struggle everyday with

his attitude, but learned to take a deep breath, and realize hes

doing the best he can for now... sorry, had to vent a minute!

Gretchen

> Morning,

> Thanks everyone for your prayers and support. It means so much

to me. I survived the night. Not much sleep as the pain kept waking

me up and of course last night's stress did not help.

> It is not up to me to try and change this man or for me to

change to please him. He needs to do this for himself. I refuse to

be his punching bag any longer verbally, mentally or otherwise. Now,

what to do about it? that is my next step. I am going to remove

myself from the situation everytime it arises. I cannot handle it

and my disease cannot handle it either. So where does that leave me?

Not sure yet.

> I wish someone would tell this man a thing or two about what a

real husband is. How I deserve to be treated. His Mom dod not raise

him this way and if alive, would not support it. So where does it

come from? I am not taking the blame or trying to smooth thing over

to suit him. He is an abuser. Plain and simple.

> After all he put me through last night, he finally coughed up

the money for pet food. I knew he had some.

> My pain level is quite high still. I do not know what is gonna

solve it at this point. I do know I cannot stand much more.

> Hope everyone is doing well. I could not do this without all of

you. awesome friends is what I have. A true blessing.

> Hugs,

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

, I'm glad you made it through the night...I sure don't know what to tell

you about hubby...I hope you get through the weekend okay. I know, stress is not

a good thing for us...but there is no shortage of it, it would seem.

Take care of yourself,

/Mi

I survived the night/trigger maybe

Morning,

Thanks everyone for your prayers and support. It means so much to me. I

survived the night. Not much sleep as the pain kept waking me up and of course

last night's stress did not help.

It is not up to me to try and change this man or for me to change to please

him. He needs to do this for himself. I refuse to be his punching bag any longer

verbally, mentally or otherwise. Now, what to do about it? that is my next step.

I am going to remove myself from the situation everytime it arises. I cannot

handle it and my disease cannot handle it either. So where does that leave me?

Not sure yet.

I wish someone would tell this man a thing or two about what a real husband

is. How I deserve to be treated. His Mom dod not raise him this way and if

alive, would not support it. So where does it come from? I am not taking the

blame or trying to smooth thing over to suit him. He is an abuser. Plain and

simple.

After all he put me through last night, he finally coughed up the money for

pet food. I knew he had some.

My pain level is quite high still. I do not know what is gonna solve it at

this point. I do know I cannot stand much more.

Hope everyone is doing well. I could not do this without all of you. awesome

friends is what I have. A true blessing.

Hugs,