Guest guest Posted October 18, 2008 Report Share Posted October 18, 2008 Sher Now that sounds like you. Not for me though as I don't want my ashes sneezing from the flowers. lol. Want mine disposed of at sea. > > > > > > > > From: Sher Bauman bofus (AT) wbcable (DOT) net> > > > > Subject: A little correction > > > > To: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. com > > > > Date: Monday, October 13, 2008, 3:46 PM > > > > > > > > > > > > The pictures Jack sent are of his GRANDdaughters. ..not daughters. > > > Sure pretty at any rate... > > > > > > > > > > > > MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR. > > > > Nasturtiums > > > > Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2008 Report Share Posted October 18, 2008 Sher Now that sounds like you. Not for me though as I don't want my ashes sneezing from the flowers. lol. Want mine disposed of at sea. > > > > > > > > From: Sher Bauman bofus (AT) wbcable (DOT) net> > > > > Subject: A little correction > > > > To: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. com > > > > Date: Monday, October 13, 2008, 3:46 PM > > > > > > > > > > > > The pictures Jack sent are of his GRANDdaughters. ..not daughters. > > > Sure pretty at any rate... > > > > > > > > > > > > MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR. > > > > Nasturtiums > > > > Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already there! > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2008 Report Share Posted October 18, 2008 Gale Not just family but also doctors if you don't have it all in the proper legal documents. Just as its wrong if people don't follow the wishes, its wrong if we leave them unsure. Make sure those who have the power too are those who aren't giving lip service but understand. Unfortunately many families are split by death. Doctors sometimes won't go by what family wants unless there are directives to the physicians. Carrying out wishes is more complicated than we make it. There are legal documents to take care of many of them. There are some I'd never heard of until I prepared mine. For instance, who has the right to decide what to do with the body from the home or hospital? And, do they have specific instructions. Now, you're right in being upset but you also need to get through the anger. I do have strong feelings for what I want upon my death but whether they are honored or not is far less important to me than the thought of fights and anger within family. I don't want a funeral and have legal documents so stating. However, if I had one would there be real harm? No. But if the subject tore a family apart there would be. Now, why are you still " mad, mad, mad " ? You're grieving. See, even being upset and remaining upset over what happened isn't the issue. What is the issue is the extent of your anger. And the reason its so intense is that its mixed in among the grief of your loss. Now, as someone who depends on my counselor and strongly believes in it, I would encourage you to see one. You need help separating the feelings and emotions and figuring out how to move forward. Reconciling one grievance isn't the issue. You're experiencing emotions far beyond any carrying out of a wish or family argument. You've experienced a huge loss, you're grieving, you're angry, and then what others have done just compounds all that to the point of making it unbearable. I'm glad you expressed what you were feeling here. Its not at all uncommon. It's amazing how many families are torn apart like this. However, the only thing you can take care of is yourself and if you need help doing that, then get that assistance. > > > > > > > > > > > From: Sher Bauman bofus (AT) wbcable (DOT) > net> > > > > > Subject: A little > correction > > > > > To: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. > com > > > > > Date: Monday, October 13, 2008, 3:46 PM > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > The pictures Jack > sent are of his GRANDdaughters. ..not > daughters. > > > > Sure > pretty at any rate... > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > MamaSher, age 70. IPF 3-06, OR. > > > > > > Nasturtiums > > > > > Don't fret about tomorrow, God is already > there! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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