Re: Hysterectomy and sex afterwards...(Dr. )

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D PhD wrote: >>>>>>I haven’t talked to my old friend Winnifred in a couple of years. I’m pretty sure that the consequences she describes are still true. But they are limited, very limited. In the past few years we’ve found many additional new ways to enhance women’s sexual pleasure. Thanks for responding, Dr. ...but I'm wondering if maybe you misunderstood my questions. I'm not looking to anything that would 'enhance' intimacy for me. In all honesty...my husband and I have a wonderful connection; intimately speaking, the 'quality' is great. I had to ask him if he knew what tantric sex even meant...I didn't have a clue My concern is the surgery interfering in any way with the 'ability' to be intimate. Which no amount of 'enhancing' would undo! *yikes* >>>>>>By far the best way to minimize the consequences of the hysterectomy would be to discuss your concerns IN DETAIL, BEFORE, with your surgeon. By “before” I don’t mean after you’ve been half-anesthetized in the operating room; I mean NOW! If you don’t feel that (s)he is getting your point, it might be worth pointing to a different surgeon. I certainly agree that I need to find out NOW and not later...but seems like medical school doesn't always teach or focus on female sexuality. I could go to several docs for an opinion...but I'm not sure it would matter. From what I understand, medical text books in the past were notorious for blaming female sexual dysfunction on psychogenic causes. If she's frigid, it's in her head, if it hurts, it's in her head. *arg* Don't get me wrong...I believe there is a mind/body connection...but every sexual problem is NOT in the mind...and I realize you, unlike some docs, understand this due to your background and your

knowledge of Vulvodynia. Thanks for responding...~Chelle