Re: My tigger - same here - what gives with these family members anyhow?

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Girlsaylor,

I cannot believe on the night after your heart cath your DH lit into

you! Good grief! They DO NOT schedule those lightly. That is NOT a

procedure that they just say " hmmmmm, let's let so and so have a

heart cath today! " They are going into a major artery INTO the heart

to check it out. What a goober!

As for the rest of the stuff - I have that too! And let me tell you,

my DH, who at first thought I was possibly trying out to be a

professional sick person, now has reversed his decision, especially

after 2 hospital stays in 2 months. He now knows and understands if

I say " I'm in trouble " or " I need to go to the doctor " that

something's going on.

Even with the fibro, my DH is starting to slowly get it. He knows

that sometimes, I am hurting and there are places he cannot touch and

other times, they are sore but need slight massage.

The toughest part for me is that most nights, he lays awake and

checks on me all night long to make sure I'm okay. So he doesn't get

the rest he needs.

Now I'm not sure how supportive the rest of my family will be/is

about the fibro but I think as we learn about it, they will hopefully

be supportive. One of the things that we haev noticed is that I fall

more often (or bump into stuff/wobbly). Now that I know it's the

fibro causing it, well, I can be prepared.

But I'm so sorry that (((((TIGGER))))) and (((((YOU))))) are NOT

getting the home support you should. That's not fair. Home should be

a haven and a safe place.

I agree with Angie that if guys can't " fix " it they aren't sure what

to do. My husband's solution is usually to work on another

project.....lol.....he's done a built in bookcase in our living room,

laid floor in the living and dining room and our daughter's room and

is now ready to work on our room (painting and all). Guess what my

job is? Supervise..........

(((((Hugs))))))

Darlene

>

> Tigger, I'm so sorry you were treated badly in a family setting,

where

> we are supposed to be able to be ourselves. Stinks, how well I

know.

>

> I don't have much to say to comfort you. The evening after my heart

> cath, I was resting at home and my spouse lit into me. He was

saying

> things like I'm a hypochondriac. He thinks I love attention and

that's

> why I had the heart cath. Yeah, right. I'm glad for the good news,

but

> does he really think I just got a heart cath because I wanted one?!

> Like I didn't have to have symptoms or something in order for

health

> insurance to even approve it?! I mean, can a person fake high blood

> pressure? If so, where do those numbers come from? Maybe I could

fake

> lower blood pressure?! Or can a person fake high cholesterol? How

about

> this one - Do ya think I can fake the ground glass haziness on the

ct

> scan of my lungs? Or do ya think it's possible to fake a hiatal

hernia,

> during a barium swallow test in the hospital? Is it possible I just

> dreamed up the pocketing in my intestines because I think having

> diverticulosis is glamorous? Or maybe I think wearing my bipap mask

is

> sexy in bed?! I guess he thinks I dreamed up the hip pain from

> bilateral congenital hip dysplaysia so I could have 3 hip surgeries

> thus far, like I think it's neat to learn to walk again three times

in

> only five years?!

>

> Yepperz, I know all about families being no support at all. I'm a

> strong woman, and capable of just handling the emotional part of

this

> without any support on the home front. In fact, I kicked my own

spouse

> out of the hospital because he was being such an arse! I just don't

> want him accompanying me to anything medical if I can help it. When

he

> was riding me so hard that night, I asked him to go along with me

to

> the doc to hear what she has to say about the tests...that got me a

> whole nuther tirade, so I just walked out of the room and took to

my

> bed.

>

> girlsaylor

>