Re: Help please its just getting worse

[Guest guest]

Oh my goodness, Barb - how awful! That's really, really scary for you

and for the other kids who have this person as a bus driver. I'm not

sure where I'd start but feel you need to let someone know. I think

were it me I'd let the principal know as a start or perhaps the district

super.

Hugs,

Barbara

bk10060 wrote:

> I posted that I was having difficulties with the Transportation

> dpt. I have tried to get the Directors help. He has refused. So I

> just finishd a letter to the District Superintendet. I was going to

> mail it yesterday when I noted a grammer error. I didn't have time

> to fix it right then. So I intended to mail it this moring. But I

> am now so upset that I can't even think.

> Here is what just happend.

>

> I been taking my son to school myself. We were waiting for the

> doors to

> open so we had to wait 3 mins. While waiting his bus pulled up

> behind me. My son got out and I pulled away. As I was driving I

> noticed his bus behind me. Going quite fast. She tailgated me for

> about 3 miles. I chagned lanes as soon as I could. But she kept

> right there. Then just before my turn. (and since she knows where

> I live she knew it too) She pulled out of the lane and then cut me

> off & slammed on her breaks She stayed stopped for some time I know

> she was waiting for me to react. But I just froze in fear or anger

> I don't know what emotion came first.

>

>

> We have not personally attacked the driver and aide. We have

> remained calm and wanted answers as to why our son was being singled

> out by these two. My husband is very diplomatic and the level

> headed one. That is why I always do the research and take notes and

> he speaks.

>

> But now road rage! Get evidence I suppose. But for that I would

> need to have her do it again. I didn;t call the police. My husband

> said that would just make matters worse. He would call the Bus

> depot. He did but no one was there. I am sick I don't know what

> to do. This woman transports my kids and my kids friends. What is

> more disturbing is that they have our personal information. Phone

> address, names, names and other information of emergency contacts,

> medical information. Im worried if she can blow up and commit road

> rage then what else can she do.

>

> I don't know waht to do. I tried to get an advocate but she said

> that advocates deal with Educational issues and this is a

> transportation issue. Can't help me.

>

> Barb

>

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Another thought - do you know other parents who have kids who ride this

bus? How do they feel about the driver?

Barbara

Barbara Mellert wrote:

> Oh my goodness, Barb - how awful! That's really, really scary for you

> and for the other kids who have this person as a bus driver. I'm not

> sure where I'd start but feel you need to let someone know. I think

> were it me I'd let the principal know as a start or perhaps the district

> super.

>

> Hugs,

> Barbara

>

> bk10060 wrote:

>

>> I posted that I was having difficulties with the Transportation

>> dpt. I have tried to get the Directors help. He has refused. So I

>> just finishd a letter to the District Superintendet. I was going to

>> mail it yesterday when I noted a grammer error. I didn't have time

>> to fix it right then. So I intended to mail it this moring. But I

>> am now so upset that I can't even think.

>> Here is what just happend.

>>

>> I been taking my son to school myself. We were waiting for the

>> doors to

>> open so we had to wait 3 mins. While waiting his bus pulled up

>> behind me. My son got out and I pulled away. As I was driving I

>> noticed his bus behind me. Going quite fast. She tailgated me for

>> about 3 miles. I chagned lanes as soon as I could. But she kept

>> right there. Then just before my turn. (and since she knows where

>> I live she knew it too) She pulled out of the lane and then cut me

>> off & slammed on her breaks She stayed stopped for some time I know

>> she was waiting for me to react. But I just froze in fear or anger

>> I don't know what emotion came first.

>>

>>

>> We have not personally attacked the driver and aide. We have

>> remained calm and wanted answers as to why our son was being singled

>> out by these two. My husband is very diplomatic and the level

>> headed one. That is why I always do the research and take notes and

>> he speaks.

>>

>> But now road rage! Get evidence I suppose. But for that I would

>> need to have her do it again. I didn;t call the police. My husband

>> said that would just make matters worse. He would call the Bus

>> depot. He did but no one was there. I am sick I don't know what

>> to do. This woman transports my kids and my kids friends. What is

>> more disturbing is that they have our personal information. Phone

>> address, names, names and other information of emergency contacts,

>> medical information. Im worried if she can blow up and commit road

>> rage then what else can she do.

>>

>> I don't know waht to do. I tried to get an advocate but she said

>> that advocates deal with Educational issues and this is a

>> transportation issue. Can't help me.

>>

>> Barb

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

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[Guest guest]

The bus driver and the aid clearly have issues, and should not be driving

children, in my opinion. I'm not a lawyer, but if I were you, I WOULD

contact the police and file a report. I would think you want to have

something on file if this were to happen again. I would then document

exactly what happened, as you did here, and fire off copies to the

principal, the superintendent, and the transportation depot. I would demand

a different bus and driver to drive my child to and from school, that this

driver is not driving safely and clearly has issues with me and my child.

You need to document this, so that there is written evidence of a problem.

Meantime, you're probably going to have to keep driving your child. But

their behavior is not right, and you should not have to deal with it.

I'm so sorry for what an awful morning you had; good luck.

Stefanie

Mom to Ben, 7, severe/profound HOH, and Isabella, 10, mild loss

on 3/21/06 11:43 AM, bk10060 at kevinbarb6@... wrote:

> I posted that I was having difficulties with the Transportation

> dpt. I have tried to get the Directors help. He has refused. So I

> just finishd a letter to the District Superintendet. I was going to

> mail it yesterday when I noted a grammer error. I didn't have time

> to fix it right then. So I intended to mail it this moring. But I

> am now so upset that I can't even think.

> Here is what just happend.

>

> I been taking my son to school myself. We were waiting for the

> doors to

> open so we had to wait 3 mins. While waiting his bus pulled up

> behind me. My son got out and I pulled away. As I was driving I

> noticed his bus behind me. Going quite fast. She tailgated me for

> about 3 miles. I chagned lanes as soon as I could. But she kept

> right there. Then just before my turn. (and since she knows where

> I live she knew it too) She pulled out of the lane and then cut me

> off & slammed on her breaks She stayed stopped for some time I know

> she was waiting for me to react. But I just froze in fear or anger

> I don't know what emotion came first.

>

>

> We have not personally attacked the driver and aide. We have

> remained calm and wanted answers as to why our son was being singled

> out by these two. My husband is very diplomatic and the level

> headed one. That is why I always do the research and take notes and

> he speaks.

>

> But now road rage! Get evidence I suppose. But for that I would

> need to have her do it again. I didn;t call the police. My husband

> said that would just make matters worse. He would call the Bus

> depot. He did but no one was there. I am sick I don't know what

> to do. This woman transports my kids and my kids friends. What is

> more disturbing is that they have our personal information. Phone

> address, names, names and other information of emergency contacts,

> medical information. Im worried if she can blow up and commit road

> rage then what else can she do.

>

> I don't know waht to do. I tried to get an advocate but she said

> that advocates deal with Educational issues and this is a

> transportation issue. Can't help me.

>

> Barb

>

>

>

>

>

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> the intellectual property of the author and therefore subject to copyright

> restrictions.

>

[Guest guest]

Oh my goodness. I don't know what to say to help you, but your post just scares

the you-know-what out of me. To think that someone that vindictive is driving

our children around.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with that.

Cherie (mom to - 7 1/2, mod-severe SNHL)

bk10060 wrote:

I posted that I was having difficulties with the Transportation

dpt. I have tried to get the Directors help. He has refused. So I

just finishd a letter to the District Superintendet. I was going to

mail it yesterday when I noted a grammer error. I didn't have time

to fix it right then. So I intended to mail it this moring. But I

am now so upset that I can't even think.

Here is what just happend.

I been taking my son to school myself. We were waiting for the

doors to

open so we had to wait 3 mins. While waiting his bus pulled up

behind me. My son got out and I pulled away. As I was driving I

noticed his bus behind me. Going quite fast. She tailgated me for

about 3 miles. I chagned lanes as soon as I could. But she kept

right there. Then just before my turn. (and since she knows where

I live she knew it too) She pulled out of the lane and then cut me

off & slammed on her breaks She stayed stopped for some time I know

she was waiting for me to react. But I just froze in fear or anger

I don't know what emotion came first.

We have not personally attacked the driver and aide. We have

remained calm and wanted answers as to why our son was being singled

out by these two. My husband is very diplomatic and the level

headed one. That is why I always do the research and take notes and

he speaks.

But now road rage! Get evidence I suppose. But for that I would

need to have her do it again. I didn;t call the police. My husband

said that would just make matters worse. He would call the Bus

depot. He did but no one was there. I am sick I don't know what

to do. This woman transports my kids and my kids friends. What is

more disturbing is that they have our personal information. Phone

address, names, names and other information of emergency contacts,

medical information. Im worried if she can blow up and commit road

rage then what else can she do.

I don't know waht to do. I tried to get an advocate but she said

that advocates deal with Educational issues and this is a

transportation issue. Can't help me.

Barb

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IMMEDIATELY call line Crawford at the National Association of the Deaf and

tell her Semesky told you to call. If she's not there, ask if Marc

Charmatz (Sharmahts) is in and tell him I told you to call. . If

you get a receptionist, give them a brief synopsis of the situation and

reiterate that this is urgent.

Leave an urgent message for them to call you back. You usually don't get them

immediately though with line you sometimes can. She helped clear up another

problem like this that merely involved use of sign language on the bus, no

retaliation. This is serious and they need to get involved IMMEDIATELY.

Good luck!

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 3/22/2006 8:28:21 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,

raj.hylton@... writes:

But having a hearing child on the bus every day, and a preschooler who

may ride the bus next year, this is scaring the bleep out of me. I agree

with everyone that this person needs to be removed from her job, fast!

For the sake of all the kids, especially those whose parents have no idea

what's happened!

Just to calm your fears, this is NOT the norm. Our son has had one bus

driver over the years who has been like a surrogate mom. He now has her as a

driver again and we are delighted even though he is old enough not to need a

mom

on the bus. Once he fell asleep on the bus and an aid came out (or more

likely, he took it out on autopilot and didn't realize it). He noticed it when

he

walked into the school. The front office called the bus barn who radioed her

.... but she'd already found it. She'd noticed Ian had only one aid in as he

walked past her so, she went back and looked in his seat. Viola, it was there

on the seat. She had already turned the bus around and was coming back to the

school with the aid when the call came.

She is also the driver who found him asleep on the bus his first day of

kindergartner. She'd seen him get on the bus and remembered him. But when the

last stop came (ours) there was no Ian standing up. She stopped in front of our

house, I was waiting in the driveway and I watched her get up from her seat

and walk back in the bus. I was obviously concerned, but quickly figured out

she was waking up my boy and gently walking him off the bus. She suggested to

him that if he was feeling really tired, he should sit closer to the front so

she could see him in the big mirror if he fell asleep. We chatted for a

minute or two and she was very nice from that very first day ... he felt safe

and

liked her from the start.

Ian use to sit behind her and fall asleep on a regular basis, especially

after he first got his aids (elementary school). He said she was always really

nice and would wake him up a little before his stop, never yelling. (Poor kid

was exhausted as many of ours are!) According to him, she was really nice to

him and didn't have to be -- most bus drivers just stop and bellow a kid's

name, but she never did that. It wasn't her style. He is often one of the first

kids onto the bus and last off, and now they chat about movies and music.

They've even loaned each other DVDs to watch.

She has been more than wonderful over the years. When Ian has forgotten the

FM (or his homework, or extra batteries) she would hand him her cell phone for

him to call me. When my daughter started 2nd grade and was nervous about the

bus ride without Ian, she was delighted to find out that she had Barb as her

driver. No more fears.

The kids have given her fudge every year at Christmas (their idea -- she is

always included along with their teachers). When Ian started middle school

and we had a whole series of misadventures during the year, when school ended

in June, I gave her a gift certificate to a local restaurant. I've done it

ever since, but never for any of the other bus drivers. We've never had one

like

her before. So, there can be really great ones out there. I know my kids are

in incredibly competent hands when she's their driver.

Best -- Jill

[Guest guest]

Barb,

Everyone has already given good advice about this ... I just wanted to

chime in with an example of road rage that's been big news in our area

for the last few months ... Last November, a crazy guy (with a history of

this stuff it turns out) did the EXACT same thing as your bus driver! On

a busy highway at rush-hour he pulled in front of a car then slammed on

the brakes - this incident unfortunately turned deadly as the slam'ee

swerved and crossed the large median and into oncoming traffic. My

husband was coming home through there that night and said it was

horrible. That crazy is on trial now, and they're trying to decide how

long to put him away for ...

As if you didn't think your bus driver's actions were serious enough!

But having a hearing child on the bus every day, and a preschooler who

may ride the bus next year, this is scaring the bleep out of me. I agree

with everyone that this person needs to be removed from her job, fast!

For the sake of all the kids, especially those whose parents have no idea

what's happened!

Good luck - and let us know how it turns out!!

, in , CO - mom to:

(6.9) - hearing, typical, and riding the bus is the " best part of

school "

Kate(4.9) - mod/sev SN, delayed, microcephally, would love to ride the

bus like her sister!

[Guest guest]

You may also want to cc your state representative. Sometimes the

school district and others take more notice if you include this.

Unfourtunately we have had to do this several times to different

agencies in order to have the situation at hand resolved.

Beth

[Guest guest]

You may also want to cc your state representative. Sometimes the

school district and others take more notice if you include this.

Unfourtunately we have had to do this several times to different

agencies in order to have the situation at hand resolved.

Beth

[Guest guest]

You may also want to cc your state representative. Sometimes the

school district and others take more notice if you include this.

Unfourtunately we have had to do this several times to different

agencies in order to have the situation at hand resolved.

Beth