RE: Moving, renting with toddler (v.long, sorry)

[Guest guest]

Kirsten

Calm Calm Calm Calm Calm

You'll be fine. Make a list of the positives for the move. As for renting

and not looking until 3 weeks before the move, this is probably because you

usually give 4 weeks notice on rented accomodation, thinking of this there

is no point looking before, other than finding all the local renting

agencies, what about your local paper, some people rent privately.

> And can you believe that what is worrying me most is what I will do

> about his 2nd birthday party in Aug!!! I must rent a house with a

> garden.

Will really be concerned about a garden, aslong as he has you and DH,

I wouldn't worry about a party. My Josh just had a couple of friends round

but didn't really know it was his birthday (he will next year for his 3rd

though!)

love'n'hugs

[Guest guest]

Hiya, we did this when we moved to East Grinstead. The kids (only two

at the time!) were 5 and 18m and thought it was great fun. We then

moved about 4 months later into our new house. We kep Emma well

informed about what was going on but Kieran didn't care so long as

mummy and daddy were wherever he was.

Lesley

ANT, tr BFC, Mother, Wife, Friend, Mender of Broken Hearts,

Keeper of Secrets, Chauffeur, Cook, Maid, Writer. Overweight, Over

thirty, Over here in Worthing..

" Believing Oneself to be perfect is often the sign of a delusional

mind! " Star Trek.

Moving, renting with toddler (v.long, sorry)

> We have sold our house!!!!!!!Ahhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!and yippeee.

>

> Super quick time and the first one to view put in an offer that we

> really couldn't refuse. Apparently there is only 3 of us in the

> chain and we could be looking at moving in 4 weeks, as the others

> have been ready for ages.

>

> We had already decided to rent for a while before deciding exactly

> where we would like to buy again, as we rushed into it a bit the

> first time, hence the move.

>

> I have never rented with children before and am very nervous at the

> prospect of being totally reliant on the agreeability of the

> landlord, to not kick us out when the first 6 months is up. I hate

> moving anyway, but am finding this particullarly stressful, as I

have

> never move with kids before!!

>

> How do kids adjust? I am feeling incredibly guilty at taking Josh

> out of the house and bedroom that he has always known to be his

house

> and his room. To move him around for the next couple of years into

> what I feel really is the unknown.

>

> I have also been told today by a letting agent that there is no

point

> in looking for rented accommodation until 3 weeks before we

> move!!!!!! :-((

> I cannot believe that we have to leave it so late and am really

> worried that we will suddenly find ourselves homeless if we can't

> find a house to rent. We could go to my mums, but DH's business is

> here and mum is miles away. And traveling to work would take about

2

> hours each way.

>

> Also the removals company that should have come to give us a quote

> today didn't turn up!! AHHHH!!! Is it always this stressfull? What

> will I be like by the move????? I only agreed the sale yesterday!

>

> Someone please tell me that I can cope and it will all become less

> frightening!! Poor old won't know what is going on at 22

> months! Guilt, guilt, guilt!

>

> And can you believe that what is worrying me most is what I will do

> about his 2nd birthday party in Aug!!! I must rent a house with a

> garden.

>

> Does this make me a member of the !!!!!!! club????.

>

> Kirsten

> Moving, training, working, mothering, worrying!

>

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> Someone please tell me that I can cope and it will all become less

> frightening!! Poor old won't know what is going on at 22

> months! Guilt, guilt, guilt!

Kirsten, relax. It will be fine.

The most important thing for is not the walls but the people

around him. (I have to believe this, Steffi having slept in 26 beds

by the time she was a year old!)

I have been flat-hunting today - we are about to move for the third

time in six months. I viewed three flats but have been told I will

have to wait a couple of weeks before they can offer me something

definite as these may be taken before we are ready to move (1 July).

After that it will be a month in there and then we return to the UK!

Luckily each time we haven't had to pack up house and home - just the

bare essentials but Steffi hasn't had a great deal of toys here as we

left almost all of them in England.

We used Allied Pickfords when we moved from London to Nottingham.

They were very efficient, prompt and courteous. We got another quote

but it was more expensive. I would recommend Allied everytime. (Cue

dis-satisfied customers!)

Don't worry about the party - won't know - only you will. Make

a cake and blow out some candles with him. Take him to a park or on a

special outing with a couple of friends and have a picnic if you don't

have a garden. Is the weather likely to be good enough to have

something in the garden anyway???? ;-))

Good luck, Stay calm.

--

Sue

Melbourne Australia

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Phoebe was 17 months when we moved and she seemed totally unfazed by the whole

experience. I made sure that her special toy's where sorted out before so they

came back out immediately and that seemed to be all she asked (now ask me and

you will get a different story STRESS STRESS STRESS)..

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

[Guest guest]

Hit the Bach Rescue Remedy, Kirsten and take a few deep breathes.

Everything will be fine!

We moved countless time when our boys were small and neither seem to

have had any problems from this. At 22 months *you* are the stability

in Josh's life, not his surroundings. And he won't care less whether

he has a party or not!! If you do decide to have one there are plenty

of venues nowadays that offer a full package of entertainment and

food. Or you can hire a room at a community centre and have a teddy

bears picnic.

Good luck!

Lesley

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From: Kirsten

How do kids adjust? I am feeling incredibly guilty at taking Josh

out of the house and bedroom that he has always known to be his house

and his room. To move him around for the next couple of years into

what I feel really is the unknown.

I have also been told today by a letting agent that there is no point

in looking for rented accommodation until 3 weeks before we

move!!!!!! :-((

I cannot believe that we have to leave it so late and am really

worried that we will suddenly find ourselves homeless if we can't

find a house to rent. We could go to my mums, but DH's business is

here and mum is miles away. And traveling to work would take about 2

hours each way.

Also the removals company that should have come to give us a quote

today didn't turn up!! AHHHH!!! Is it always this stressfull? What

will I be like by the move????? I only agreed the sale yesterday!

Someone please tell me that I can cope and it will all become less

frightening!! Poor old won't know what is going on at 22

months! Guilt, guilt, guilt!

And can you believe that what is worrying me most is what I will do

about his 2nd birthday party in Aug!!! I must rent a house with a

garden.

[Guest guest]

>Hit the Bach Rescue Remedy, Kirsten and take a few deep breathes.

>Everything will be fine!

Thats a good idea, I fogot I have some in the cupboard, off I go!!

> And he won't care less whether

>he has a party or not!! If you do decide to have one there are

plenty

>of venues nowadays that offer a full package of entertainment and

>food. Or you can hire a room at a community centre and have a teddy

>bears picnic.

Teddy bears picnic sounds nice and there must be a local park, where

ever we end up!

Thanks

Kirsten - Feeling a little more in control today that to my wonderful

e-mail.

Mum to (21 months) Step-mom to Shelby (6yrs)

Trainee ANT, and Memb-sec Woking and Knaphill Branches.

[Guest guest]

>Phoebe was 17 months when we moved and she seemed totally unfazed by

the whole experience. I made sure that her special toy's where sorted

out before so they came back out immediately and that seemed to be all

she asked (now ask me and you will get a different story STRESS STRESS

STRESS)..

Maybe my worries about not handling the move are really my

worries that I won't handle the move very well! Getting into

psychology here. I have realised from everyone's postings that maybe

won't care. If I turn it into an adventure for him maybe it

will become more so for me! What d'ya recon?

Kirsten

Being very optimistic all of a sudden.

[Guest guest]

Kirsten

Just make sure that the place you are moving into is CLEAN.. our was NOT (took

us 3 days to get the Kitchen cleaned and I have the SMALLEST kitchen

imaginable...) that makes up for a lot of stuff... (but yes get some bach

rescue remedy LOL)

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

Re: Moving, renting with toddler (v.long, sorry)

>Phoebe was 17 months when we moved and she seemed totally unfazed by

the whole experience. I made sure that her special toy's where sorted

out before so they came back out immediately and that seemed to be all

she asked (now ask me and you will get a different story STRESS STRESS

STRESS)..

Maybe my worries about not handling the move are really my

worries that I won't handle the move very well! Getting into

psychology here. I have realised from everyone's postings that maybe

won't care. If I turn it into an adventure for him maybe it

will become more so for me! What d'ya recon?

Kirsten

Being very optimistic all of a sudden.

[Guest guest]

Just to let you all know that the removal man turned up to do the

quote today! a whole day late, what does that say for moving with

their company? I think not! :-) Doesn't instil much faith in their

ability to help your move go smoothly, does it.

Was it Allied or Pickfords you said? or are they one company Sue.

Kirsten

Mum to (21 months) Step-mom to Shelby (6yrs)

Trainee ANT, and Memb-sec Woking and Knaphill Branches.

[Guest guest]

> >Phoebe was 17 months when we moved and she seemed totally unfazed by

>the whole experience. I made sure that her special toy's where sorted

>out before so they came back out immediately and that seemed to be all

>she asked (now ask me and you will get a different story STRESS STRESS

>STRESS)..

>

>

>Maybe my worries about not handling the move are really my

>worries that I won't handle the move very well! Getting into

>psychology here. I have realised from everyone's postings that maybe

> won't care. If I turn it into an adventure for him maybe it

>will become more so for me! What d'ya recon?

>

>Kirsten

>Being very optimistic all of a sudden.

We moved what some people consider a lot when I was a child - at

least counsellors seem to tell me it must have been hard for me! In

fact I don't think it was - as people have been saying, I foudn it

quite exciting - but I suspect it *was* hard on my mother and that

could have had a knock on effect. They were never moves of our

choosing. One thing though that I really did hate with a passion was

my mother constantly saying about proposed renovations/activities

" Well, we don't know how long we'll be here " (not allowed to go on

the waiting list for Brownies etc) And I do get very attached to

places as an adult.

--

jennifer@...

Vaudin

[Guest guest]

Kirsten wrote:

> If I turn it into an adventure for him maybe it

> will become more so for me! What d'ya recon?

Defnitely!

We spent most of the summer last year hyping Steffi up about how

wonderful it was that she was starting school (pre-school) in

September, then on the day before she started decided to move to

Australia. I then spent time telling her how wonderful it would be in

Australia and spent the entire autumn term building her up for that

(including making up stories about a superhero kangaroo who would be

her playmate!).

--

Sue

[Guest guest]

Kirsten wrote:

> If I turn it into an adventure for him maybe it

> will become more so for me! What d'ya recon?

Defnitely!

We spent most of the summer last year hyping Steffi up about how

wonderful it was that she was starting school (pre-school) in

September, then on the day before she started decided to move to

Australia. I then spent time telling her how wonderful it would be in

Australia and spent the entire autumn term building her up for that

(including making up stories about a superhero kangaroo who would be

her playmate!).

--

Sue

[Guest guest]

Kirsten wrote:

> If I turn it into an adventure for him maybe it

> will become more so for me! What d'ya recon?

Defnitely!

We spent most of the summer last year hyping Steffi up about how

wonderful it was that she was starting school (pre-school) in

September, then on the day before she started decided to move to

Australia. I then spent time telling her how wonderful it would be in

Australia and spent the entire autumn term building her up for that

(including making up stories about a superhero kangaroo who would be

her playmate!).

--

Sue