Re: Re: Life after VVS Surgery - Millie

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I had a great vacation, thank you. Want to go again. As far as

the lubrication issue, you are right, I have less and that is

one reason for the cream. The other is I have always been

scared when I have sex of the skin breaking open because I

was reconstructed and the cream, I don't know makes me

feel like I am creating a buffer to protect the skin. With me

if I don't have sex say regularly at least once a week,

when my husband and myself resume sex it is a little painful.

I guess we all have different stories. Millie

Re: Life after VVS Surgery - Millie

or Millie Goodman <mgoodman (AT) carr (DOT) org> wrote:

>>>>>>>sex has been okay for me these past 15 years,

but I use alot of cream with sex. Is this the

norm with most of the woman who have had

this surgery. Thanks, Millie

Millie, I was just gonna throw in that a good reason for the lack of lubrication might be where you had your ovaries removed. The ovaries are the main producers of our female sex hormones and the loss of hormones really impacts our ability to make our own lubrication. I am only 35 and I ALWAYS use lub (and I still have my ovaries)...I would not let my hubby near me without it! I'd say most of us with vulvar pain use some kind of lubrication, it's better to do that then to risk too much friction against our sensitive skin. Did you have a good vacation?!!! ~Chelle

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You know, it feels so good to hear another woman talk about the fact that spontaneity is an issue. But if two people

love each other it doesn't matter. My husband is 62 and God bless his heart he has had a bad time, long story, got

depressed and had to go on paxil and you know what that meant. He and I adjusted to the fact that he was less than

he always was, and we made it. He is off the paxil now and fine in that department, but our bodies change

and especially men's bodies, sex is good between us but different and it all doesn't seem to matter, as long as we have each other.

Just hang in there everyone, as we age nothing is the same and things that mattered at one time don't matter anymore. Millie

Re: Life after VVS Surgery - Millie

or Millie Goodman <mgoodman (AT) carr (DOT) org> wrote:

>>>>>The other is I have always been

scared when I have sex of the skin breaking open because I

was reconstructed and the cream, I don't know makes me

feel like I am creating a buffer to protect the skin. With me

if I don't have sex say regularly at least once a week,

when my husband and myself resume sex it is a little painful.

I guess we all have different stories. Millie

You're right, Millie, we all do have different stories, but in alot of ways they are the same. I certainly understand your fears concerning your skin. Especially since you were reconstructed in the vulvar area. When you've experienced vulvar pain it totally makes sex different and fear of pain is so understandable because many of us have experienced that often. I have no clue what spontaneity is anymore...I have to rub on two different kinds lidocaine before sex, and I have the Femglide (lub) within arms reach, and go extremely slow, etc., but guess what? It works! I don't even care anymore about spontaneity...I am just so grateful to be able to be with my husband now after many years of pain I'd prep for 30 minutes if I had too! *grin* Just know you are not alone in your fears or concerns.... and by the way, I'm glad you had a great vacation! Hugs, Chelle

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With my surgery to the vulvar area it was just to remove excess

skin from the labia minora but I have a problem with lubrication

now and that's why I have to have the Estrace around and now

also Vitamin E oil to keep the area lubricated.

Kristy

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The employer has no impact on what the insurance carrier decides

to put in their plan. The insurance company gives a plan and

the employers look it over and then make a decision if they want

that plan or have to go with another. In order for the

insurance companies to start covering it again each person will

have to go to the insurance company themselves to make the

complaint about why they should.

I know this about the employer issue because with my mom's if I

have a complaint about something I have to go to the insurance

company first and then after so many times I can get them

involved to help with appealing.

Kristy

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