Re: Very angry

[Guest guest]

I have been where you are now. And I am so sorry you had to go through this.

I have said this before and I probably will say this often because I firmly

believe this.

If a person cannot see us bleeding or laying with broken bones then there

must not be anything wrong with us.

I have stayed away from people on purpose and when they ask me how I am I

say fine and let it go at that. very few people know how much pain I am in on a

daily basis. have pain every day it is just that some days are worse than

the other.

I hope you do not stay angry very long. Because anger in the end hurts us

more.

Norma/Ohio

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[Guest guest]

I am so sorry. My mother does that to me at family gatherings in front of

everyone at tehtable.So I do not talk period.

lori H

Tigger wrote:

I went to my brother's house for corned beef and cabbage (St. Paddy's

Day)

and we had a decent time. Unfornately, I woke up not feeling that well.

After everyone left my brother sat down and told me I can't talk about my

illness in a " party " setting. I'm so f-ing sick of it all. I thought he

had some idea, but he doesn't. He thinks he does, but he doesn't have a

clue. In addition to feeling kind of sick, I was in a great deal of pain.

especially that frozen shoulder.

I've been crying for hours now and don't know what to do. I think I'm going

to just stay clear of him until my anger subsides. I actually told him that

I wish he could feel my pain for a day and then he'd feel differently.

I'm just so sick of it all!

Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

[Guest guest]

Thanks Lori,

I think I'm going to step back for awhile. I can't handle this anymore. I

can't pretend that life is hunky-dorey when, in fact, I'm in agony. I've

had enough.

Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

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From: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

[mailto:Fibromyalgia_Support_Group ] On Behalf Of Lori Hammer

Sent: Sunday, March 16, 2008 10:11 PM

To: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group

Subject: Re: Very angry

I am so sorry. My mother does that to me at family gatherings in front of

everyone at tehtable.So I do not talk period.

lori H

Tigger <tigger.pinkraincoat <mailto:tigger.pinkraincoat%40gmail.com>

@gmail.com> wrote:

I went to my brother's house for corned beef and cabbage (St. Paddy's Day)

and we had a decent time. Unfornately, I woke up not feeling that well.

After everyone left my brother sat down and told me I can't talk about my

illness in a " party " setting. I'm so f-ing sick of it all. I thought he

had some idea, but he doesn't. He thinks he does, but he doesn't have a

clue. In addition to feeling kind of sick, I was in a great deal of pain.

especially that frozen shoulder.

I've been crying for hours now and don't know what to do. I think I'm going

to just stay clear of him until my anger subsides. I actually told him that

I wish he could feel my pain for a day and then he'd feel differently.

I'm just so sick of it all!

Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

[Guest guest]

I know this is hurtful to you. It would be to me also. Unfortunately, alot of

us are consumed with this illness and is almost impossible to NOT think about it

everyday. It wakes up with us and stays all day and attacks even in our sleep.

I wonder if your brother would be offended if you had cancer and talked about it

at a social gathering? It leads one to believe that he questions the existence

of this disease and its severity.

I just don't know what to say to make you feel better. I suppose it will just

take time. I don't mention mine alot to most people but if the subject arises

or I can explain something to someone about this illness, I do.

love and hugs,

Debra V.

Tigger wrote: I went

to my brother's house for corned beef and cabbage (St. Paddy's Day)

and we had a decent time. Unfornately, I woke up not feeling that well.

After everyone left my brother sat down and told me I can't talk about my

illness in a " party " setting. I'm so f-ing sick of it all. I thought he

had some idea, but he doesn't. He thinks he does, but he doesn't have a

clue. In addition to feeling kind of sick, I was in a great deal of pain.

especially that frozen shoulder.

I've been crying for hours now and don't know what to do. I think I'm going

to just stay clear of him until my anger subsides. I actually told him that

I wish he could feel my pain for a day and then he'd feel differently.

I'm just so sick of it all!

Tigger (Ruth) in Rhode Island

[Guest guest]

> I am so sorry. My mother does that to me at family gatherings in

> front of everyone at tehtable.So I do not talk period.

When I go to family gatherings, I pretend that I'm my grandmother.

Mentally, I put on my hat with a veil and my gloves, and go and sit

and make polite conversation. And I stay away from my brother when

he talks politics. I also always take my crochet with me. It's a

conversation piece, and gives me something constructive to do. It

really helps.

This way, I no longer come away from those gatherings feeling like

I'm a battered 11 year old.

A number of years ago, I got to where, when I was having a bad flare,

I simply could not go to those gatherings. That created quite a

stir, but it helped me through some bad times. My sister was quite

upset with me, but I told her to just tell them the truth, that I

wasn't feeling well enough to come. She was mad at me, but it helped

me to get through a few more years of working, even with

deteriorating health.

Z