Re: tking the door

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lol, we did that with our daughter when she was in middle school for slamming it in a tiff one too many times. worked great. we even had a laugh about it the same day while playing a board game...asking when she got up to go do something if she could make sure her door was closed...oh, that's right! you don't have a door. my gosh it was so funny. she remembers it too, not with anger, just a roll of the eyes. that privacy is a big thing to kids. Use to tell mine not to worry about me coming through their rooms snooping because if I did and found something there was a 0% chance I could remain quiet about it, so I'm better off not knowing. I've only had one shoving match with my boy when he was in high school. One thing I won't put up with is any abusive attitude at me. Had a neighbor whose son

hit her frequently, would shut the power off from outside the house, and then leave into town...won't allow it. as I might have mentioned, parenting is so hard and not one of my favorite things. glad I have but please don't make me do it over. sigh. Something I heard on a program last week to maybe keep in mind...if you give a consequence, withhold from giving the lecture. If you give the lecture, don't give the consequence. This is from a gal who use to be a cop and does a parenting ministry...they were taught that when they pull someone over for speeding, they should either give a warning which included a lecture or just give the ticket without the lecture, but not both lecture/warning and the ticket. Same idea with dealing with the kids. Something happens that makes you want to take the door, give the warning with a calm lecture. Next time, just go take the door and do not engage in a discussion about it. Your energy has to remain stable, just like

dealing with training dogs, if you get all freaky they get all freaky. Use to really tiff my daughter when I was so calm, and listen but say "well that is the way it is, you need to deal with it" and acknowledge her but not play the ratcheted emotional challenge. Remember, it isn't that he isn't understanding the rules of the game, he is flat out refusing to abide. there isn't confusion, it is plain refusal and that isn't acceptable. I've cried many a tears from my heart hurting from my kids, still do on occasion as they haven't left the nest yet but are adults and often uncooperative. From: Kate Rothschild

To: MSersLife Sent: Thu, May 26, 2011 10:18:06 AMSubject: Re: pain dr.

I truly appreciate your words and your encouragement, nne. It means so much to me. I like the idea of taking the door off the room; might just work. He'll be totally pissed off, but it may be quite effective to motivate him.

Thanks!

love,

Kate

To: mserslife Sent: Thu, May 26, 2011 10:58:20 AMSubject: Re: pain dr.

Oh Kate they are ALL more than old enough to help in some way. You HAVE to make stick what you say. If you don't they will walk all over you. I would take EVERYTHING away from him including the door for his bedroom! If he doesn't like it, as my one son used to say, Don't let the swinging door hit you, where the good Lord split you!! I wouldn't stand for that. Good luckHugsnneTo the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the world""May the Lord Bless you and keep you,May the Lord Make his face shine upon you, and give you Peace...Forever"Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Lifehttp://breastcancerpatientssoulmatesforlife.bravehost.com/ Anxiety Depression and Breast Cancerhttp://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AnxietyDepressionandBreastCancerAngel Feather Loomerwww.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.comThe Cancer Clubwww.cancerclub.com> pain dr.> > Hi all,> Still with the TN pain. I'm wondering if anyone has had experience with> pain> doctors. My neuro simply is raising my baclofen, but I can already (at 15> mgs) start to feel sleepy. I'm thinking an appt with one might prove to> be> helpful, but wanted to know what ya'll thought.> I'm still doing the computer training, but find it exceedingly difficult> to> focus with the pain, and with the meds making me sleepy. Planning on> giving> to the instructor the word, 'trigeminal neuralgia' so

she can look it up>

and> see what I'm suffering with. Maybe she'll understand...especially when I> make those grimacing faces at her! lol.> love you all, with gentle hugs,> Kate__________________________________________________________Share photos & screenshots in seconds...TRY FREE IM TOOLPACK at http://www.imtoolpack.com/default.aspx?rc=if1Works in all emails, instant messengers, blogs, forums and social networks.